@ dada - what a load of.......

you mean to tell me that at 16 the average boy is thinking in the way you described? puh-leeeeze!!! that's absolute nonsense!

you wrote: "Also not everyone wants to or can get into university anyhow. But the core area I would say is as Both previous posters said"

well thank you for empowering our young women to have goals and ambitions beyond trying to decipher what's in the head of a randy little snotty nosed teenage boy.

you should have spent as much time advising Miss Mixed Race on how to get into university or at the very least on how to turn her Bsinto As. If it were a boy asking the same asinine question would you have truly written a treatise for him on how to be a good little husband? at 16??!!! I think not! you would have told him that there are other fishes in the sea and that he should focus on his future so he can be a good, contributing member ofthe black community.

in my opinion nothing less should gofor Miss Mixed Race. I cant believe you're telling a 16 y.o girl how to cook for her man instead of telling her to open her bloody books and study.

This is probably all cultural - because it's no coincidence that 2 Nigerian women post on the side on of education first, boys second....no correction: boys last (at least at this age).

People always ask what's wrong with the black community.....well there it is right there for you to see: the pillars of society expect very little from their young people. thank God my daughter has a father who would never dream of giving her the advise that has been rendered on this thread.

@ Miss Mixed Race - the easiest path to travel is not always the best; and the most popular view is not always the right one. i have been a 16 y.o girl....Dada has not...nor has Kunjufu for that matter.....and so who better to tell u of its perils?

Good luck to you