Fredblack

Isn't the issue that there are too many irresponsible men and women out there who do not think about the consequences of their sexual actions, sorry but men as well as women have a responsibility here. Having a child with someone ties you to that person for the rest of your life either directly or indirectly so anyone who doesn't want children with a particular person should do something about it and not leave it up to the other party. I like your fathers advice and I wish that more guys were given this advice about taking responsibility for their sexual organs.

As forwoman, yes there are alot of us out there who are irresponsible ( and also stupid) beyond believe. We need toinstill alot more responsibility around sexual behaviour.

Regarding standards of living my point was simplly a child's standard of living will be based on whoever he/she lives this is practical reality, by default guys will end up supplementing the standard of living of the childs mother and yeah your right possibly children who are not his, this is part of the complexity of relationships.

Incidently not all woman go chasing men for all they've got. I know of a sister who spent the last 18 years raising her son alone because the father refused to have anythingto do with the child. The son wanted to know his father so she gave him what information she could. The son tracked the father down. The father acknowledged his mistakes and is now paying for his son to go through university.

My biggest concern in all of this is the impact on our children and what they are learning about sexual behaviour, taking responsibility for children and a whole host of other things.


By the way Fredblack what has my country of origin got to do with the issue?