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Spice · (#59 (**permalink**))

*CUTIE* wrote:

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I am a black woman, I love and interact (sexually and romantically) exclusively with black men, I do not see that as unusual, wrong or untoward, as to be attracted to one's ownrace to me, is a natural notion.

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@Hello Cutie, I don't have any problem with same race unions what I am saying is that I am for same raceand interracial relationships too.

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When I see white women and black men (especially unattractive wm) yeah I do feel negativity towards them I'm not gonna lie (its not to the extent where it would stop me sleeping at night, or that Id want to physically attack or dish out dirty looks etc, but I do feel it). The reasoning behind this negativity may be that Im asking myself 'couldn't this guy find a decent, caring, etc.... black woman to love and cherish?

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Why are you especially irritated when a black man is with an ugly white woman? Actually I feel more positive when I see a brother with a plain looking white woman because I feel that maybe he is with her because he truely loves her and isn't just media brainwashed in to thinking white is better. Why wonder if this black guy couldn't find a decent, caring black woman when he is content with the woman he has who happens to be white?

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Whats so unappealing about bw that causes a man to disregard them as partners and prefer a wm?

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@Cutie you seriously need to read my post from a few posts up because it clearly states some of the reason why black men takes us for granted, devalues us and ultimately take the flight to white.

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Also knowing the scorn and ultimate dislike that wm hold in regards to black women, I feel almost like me and my sisters have beenbetrayed (not gonna lie), and bm are giving them (wm) the means to metaphorically stick 2 fingers up at us. With black women I think there is also a slight feeling of rejection, just a few overall theories, nothing concrete, I may be right I may be wrong but its my perception of the situation.

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Above, do you mean wm (white men) or bm(black men)? Because if you mean white men believe me I get no dislike coming from mostthem in my direction.I get more attitude from some black men.

@ Spice - ur condoning mixed relationships because you are participating in one but that doesn't mean you have to hark on about it at every instance you get. You have chosen to date outside ur race, whether wrong or right thats ur perogative, other bw (including myself) choose to date solely black men that is also a choice. This isa choice I can justify by retaining the knowledge that I love and admire my father, grandfather (not incestuously b4 u mention it)etc and feel only another black man is worthy ofthe receipt of that level of emotion from me......... I love my people as a whole and need to interact on a social, mental, spiritual, and sexual level with someone who I feel has similar descent and someone I can relate to. I do not think I could relate to a white man, I dont think we'd have all that in common, I do not believe I could or would open up to him and I do not think deep down I would trust him.

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Well Cutie, I am for whatever works for the individual. I have been accused before about lecturing about interracial relationships and bringing up the topic too many times but what most folks fail to realize that other member here will bring up my relationship first when addressing me even though it has nothing to do with the particular post and that's is mainly when Italk about it and of course when the post is about IR couples I feel free to respond.

BUT THOSE ARE SIMPLY MY PERSONAL VIEWS AND OPINIONS AND NOTHING THAT I AM ATTEMPTING TO FORCE ON TO ANYONE, AND NOT AN ATTEMPTTO INFLUENCE ANYONE ELSE

@ Spice - not being disrespectful but I feel that you look down on or even scorn bw who solely deal with People, bottom line is this. I am happy with my BLACK man and Im sure many others are happy with their own black partners also. There are black men and women who are with non black partners of their choice. Really, negative views towards it or not, whether I agree or not, that is their choice. So me,although I do retain feelings regarding the matter, and do participate in discussions such as this, I concentrate on ME and MY man, and let others dictate their own destinys

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@Cutie, you have got me all wrong on this, I never feel disrespect or scorn for other black women who have choosen to be with black men exclusively whether it is the other why around because you can read through many different threads here and see where I am being the one bashed by black women and black men alike because I have choosen notexclusively date black men.

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