@All. Lots of good wise stuff here. Particulalrly like what Menzer has said. But most of these things are actually in your control to a very large degree, minus the X factor for unpredictable human behaviour.

Secrets as such give people power over you and if you limit the things people have over you, secrets for the most part have no leverage. Of course there are always things which are out of your control of sensitivity which you may share with people.

But it is your judgement and control about who you decide to. So if you choose fools or trust people lightly, or do not seriously consider your actions then you are opening yourself to all kinds of things and you only have yourself to blame.

My mother had an old saying to never give somebody something to hold which is to heavy for them to carry. Some people do not trust themselves, and will talk even if they do not mean to do harm, because they are that way inclined and live and think for the moment.

But also we live in an illusion that we have to tell all or speak about everything we know, which is a fallacy.

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