My question is "Why do you feel the need to tell YOUR 'secret' in the first place?"

I can understand if someone accidently found out something you were trying to keep hidden and then they tell it to all and sundry........that is most certainly disloyal and disrespectful. But if you have something which cannot be known unless you reveal it why would you bother to? For one thing you are putting the onus now on someone else to keep to themselves something you could not keep to yourself in the first place.

Just playing devils advocate here folks

Respect