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chantel7 · (#8 (**permalink**))

When i was 24 i got in to this relationship,... it was based on sex only i was happy andhe was happy,....everything changed when i fell pregnant,.......the first thing he said when i told him was" get rid of it!" i was hurt,...gutted and real confused,....this was my first pregnancy,....,he already had a child from a prevoius relationship and he did'nt want anymore just yet i vowed never tohave an abortion,...................anyway i refused to terminate the pregnancy and we soon split up.

I went on to have a beautiful littlegirl,...... the babys-father was'nt in our lives for a while but soon crept back when i found a new partner,....... i've always loved the babys-father but we always had this voilatile relationship,.....there was no respect there,..... it was,nt long beforehe had some real bad news,.....his daughter was murdered by her mother and she killed her-self,...... it was devastatiin news,...... it destroyed him big time,..........we got back together,........ and took things slow,........coz his daughter was still fresh in his mind,........

Things was'nt perfect in the relationship,.....he took drugs to numb the pain,.... he drank excessively,......he was quite abusive,....but i stood by him when everyone else turnt their backs on him,........it was'nt long before baby number 2 arrived,................. again he told me to get rid of it,........by this time we had split up for the 2nd time,....... but this time i gave in to submission and arranged a termination,............just as i was about to have the operation he came in to stop me,.....sayin don,t do it ,...we can cope,.............. i gave in to him i did'nt really want to go thru with it but i was so sick and tired of it i just wanted him out of my life.

Any way i went on to have a gorgeous baby boy,........we were happy for once,....we got on,...his daughter's death still played on his mind,......and i helped him get thru the hard times,..........we made an agreementnot to have anymore kids,.....we spoke if i was pregnant that a termintion would be the most advisable decision,........and we concurred on that,.............i was on the pill but it did'nt really agree with me so istopped using it for a while,..........just when i thought things could'nt get worse for me last-year i find out i was pregnant for the 3rd time,......... i was in tears coz i knew i could'nt keep it ,..........we just could'nt afford it,........and i wanted to finish off my degree,........... i told him the news,........and he was'nt happy about it,......but we both agreed,........

Anyway i went thru with the abortion,.........and it was the worst day of my life,.......but i felt i made the right choice,....... my partner was a great support and so was his family,..... i don't really regret whati did,.....but i do regret not takinproper precautions coz this would of saved me all the emotional aggravation,...and heartache,.........but one good thing came out of this i'am now a stronger person and i got my degree and not forgetting i have 2 beautiful children,....and a partnerwhoadores me so much,...... i have now got a coil fitted so i won't be making anymore mistakes,.......i hope people can understand what i did was rightfor me and not anyone else.