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Parris · (#2 (**permalink**))

Well...hmmm...you don't have to hide......come to think of it , you just paid me a compliment....so yeah, you are right. You do have to hide.

If you have another personal questions please send me a PM. I am NOT among friends on this site...and it would only be used for someone to say "Oh Look I'm Blacker Than Parris"...and with each day I grow tired of the Super Negro E-Revolutionary, Net-Activist. Though I have to be honest in saying there are a few wiser bruthaz than I. Safety, young brutha DrunkenMOnkey, and Brutha FredBlack.

As soon as I find me another chat home around Bruthaz and Sitaz I'm out.....but since I already answered Brutha Ahmaad, who was so sure my wife was a bar chick...I'll just cut and paste it again.

As far as young men, I would love to share with you my experiences, which are not by any means law, nore does it make me an expert. One thing I will leave you with is that most young men need one thing they do not get at home. The Love of another man. Showing a child love, from a man. I realPOWERFUL...real POWERFUL.

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LOL...nahhh, though it make for great ridicule wouldn't it. Crazy Marine meets helpless Japanese bar girl. LOL....my wife actually is the VP of a compnay here in MD, and makes QUITE a bit more than I do. So if anything she is saving me.....

...but let me answer your question.

My wife never has been the party type. She's very direct, stern, but quiety and reserved at the same time (though I think I'm rubbing off on her and she on me)

As far as Japanese and Okinawan, they are not the same. hmm, how can I explain it. Just like Black British don't like to be called English, Okinawans HATE to be called Japanese......huge difference in their eyes. Not just in how they see themselves but in culture and religious aspects. I good way to start a figth is to call a Japanese Okinawan. Japanese see themselves as better than Okinawans and pretty much look down on their Island cousins.

As far as where I met my wife. I think I had come beyond the wild, crazy, do anything for a thrill child stage....., which is probably how it was meant to be. I had seen her at Martial Arts tournnaments, or Exhibitions, and never really said anything to her. Kind of like "dang she fine" and let it at that...this was 1997.

I met her at a martial arts competition, just outside of Tokyo I call myself "showing off", end up getting the snot beat out of me. Once a year the Japanese come on base and fight against the Marines....and we travel off base to Martial Arts tournaments...Tokyo, Osaka, Hiroshima, Ehime.

I'm a member of the United States Martial Arts Federation (USMAF)...pretty good in my belt class, at that time I had just reached Shodan (1st level black belt)...cocky, arrogant, typicle Marines....advanced pretty quickly...which made my tempermant worse......got to the quarters and ended up getting the snot kicked out of me. ha ha ha.

She thought I was cute......(yeah big forehead and all)....and I shook the hand of my opponant. (So un-Marine like).

*disclaimer* Here comes the love story.

Buddhist are real big on fate.

12 month courting (dating if you well), but it wasn't meant to me, or so I thought......I was on my final 8 years, in JapanI got orders Marine Base 29 Palms in California, she was to attend Grand School in New York. That was that right.

I didn't see her, or hear from her for a whole year.......My orders changed to Cherry Point, Marine base and she changed schooled to Eastern Carolina Univeristy, without either of us knowing it.

I was on my motorcyle one day.....drove past a gas station.....saw this lady "Man I've seen her some place"....and it was her!!!

As god is my witness, it happened just like that.I damn near killed myself turning around. I was thinking WHAT THE HELL ARE THE CHANCES!!!!.......been together ever since. That was about 1999-2000, married in Uwajima Japan at a Buddhist templer in Aug 2001. We are the ultimate strange couple.

A black Buddhist, married to a Japanese Christian.

People ask me "Did you bring you wife from Japan" or "So you brought you wife up here to MD"........the truth of the matter is, the only reason why I left the Marines is because of her. Only reason I didn't move back to California is beacuse of her. I would have been content to stay on active duty globe trotting......

.....as it turns out, the position I am in now, REALITIVE finacial security, the company I now work for, (most of yall think I'm a full time solider) my career paths, school, and to a great extent maturity is a direct reflection of the kind of woman she is. Pretty much the effect my mother had on my father. If I had to say, I'd say my mother's spirit some how made it to the woman I was to marry.

She is my world, my life. Not only would I give my life for her, I'd take a life for her. I'd kill everthing standing if I thought it would put a smile on her face.

I can't conceive of being with another woman besides her. I can honestly say, I was in love with her long before I met her, long before I moved to Japan, or joined the Marines. As a little Parris I would sit and think about what love is, think about what type of woman I was to marry. And I THOUGHT I had that women....turned out I didn't, not until I met my wife.....and she was the feeling I was having.

Who I am now, is totally different from who I was....and the man I am now, still can't believe that I have this woman, this gift of life and love, in myworld.

I intend on spending the rest of my life being the best husband, friend and lover to my wife.

And that is as real as I can get.

Not the club-slut story you were looking for I am sure.

PaRrIs

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