ok everyone.. you know me... it's time to discuss the "WIDER ISSUES" ... not all of them, but just a select few.. the main one is....

at the end of the day the message is that only men are supposed to FULLY live their lives.

they want to be as filthy, promiscuous, rude, loud, boisterous and free as they like, but when it comes to women, women are expected to be perfect. Life never adds up. Coz women have to be twice as good and everything, and are treated like 2nd class citizens. men want to stick themselves into anyone that will let them. The excuse for men to be promiscuous is 'lads will be lads, or 'they have to get experience...' i mean, how hard is it? to have good sex, you don't have to be a genius. 'stick it in....pull it out...stick it in .... pull it out" LOL.

but seriously, we are living in a patriarchy and all sorts of excuses are made for men's shortcomings, imperfections, laziness,uselessness, insecurities, double standards, selfishness and lack of self control... and who puts these reasons out there?: men.... and they have been doing so for centuries. they put these pressures on women and drill it into their heads to accept them 'as they are' 'men can't help it'. what if women started using that excuse?..they'd be called whores for liking sex and pursuing it as much as men and living their lives. they would be 'loose' and 'not a good/real woman' and ''promiscuous'. what i can't stand is women who are so caught up with being this 'patriarchal definition of a woman' and they put pressure on other women to act in the dumb and subservient ways they do and make things worse for women and are b**chy to the women 'who have minds of their own'. they then suck up to men and boast about getting along with men better than they do women. if they do that's fine... but when you look at reasons... they are stupid, because each sex has their shortcomings, who you are depends on how and how much you experience them. just because you feel annoyed by our own does not mean the other side is better.


i mean, i've already said somewhere on this site that if men were women for a day they couldn't hack it. some, always tryin to suppress women's personalities just to make themselves feel good and comfortable and confident, which i hate because they always have to bring everything back to them. some men are very selfish creatures. selfish and self-confessed simple creatures. How can someone have that nature and that much freedom, lack of social constraint , then command so much respect? If you think about the way a lot of guys feel uncomfortable talking to women, many put the message out there that a woman should 'tone their personalities down', so that the man can talk to them... it is men who are weaker... In every way, 'cept for strength , but they're born with that. they expect women to act a certain way, never really have any 'real responsibility' other than 'work' ( or unless a single father-rare) as they ARE NOT central to the reproduction process or child rearin... they talk about women being b**chy and insecure but there is always constant competition between women. why? - because of the way that men act and society thinks. a female can be judged entirely on the way she looks. that kinda 'simple, dumb' shit they are always trying to pull. They want a woman to be perfect but they want to 'sew their wild oats'... but they'd be seriously consious if women had as much freedom. they would have to think about who truly cared about them, as females constantly do. men's loyalties and priorities can change in a second with a glimpse of a short skirt or a 'bit of head'. what I have seen is men who act funny when their baby mothers get with someone else. they act like they don't want them to have lives, they come runnin back to get all in the woman's grill and act like they actually care about the child and woman. they wanna know what she is doin( in any other case the only time they do care is when they want to show the child off to so and so). i've seen very young men pressure women to have kids and... it disgusts me. I once heard a man say "I'm not worried, coz every woman has her man". this put across to me basically the smug nature of men that every woman wants her 'prince charming' i.e. one good man". so the assumption is that she will invest her feelings in this one man and be with him and loyal to him and want and have a 'pure and perfect union' with him forever. and stay even if she gets bored or unhappy . she will want to 'please this man and 'fulfil his needs' (every magazine has a f**king section on how to keep on doing this )(sighs) She will have his kids. love him, love them, dedicate her life to them. ( she may work or whatever). this...ladies and gentleman makes a man secure in the way that millions of women will NEVER BE , GIVEN SOCIETY'S CONSTRAINTS, PRESSURES AND DOUBLE STANDARDS. she faces great competition from other woman, as men.. being as simple as they are, can leave a woman and a good home just on the basis of another woman's 'young age and looks" and decide to 'set up shop' with this new woman', and then he even has the choice of leaving this next woman and 'setting up shop ten times more', with this freedom to roam ...and will be subject to no criticism other than "boys will be boys". if such a thing does happen, other females are encouraged to accept these 'other children', if they do not they will be seen as mean and selfish and the worst thing a 'woman' can be-- 'UNCARING' . child support for these men with many 'pickney' is 'optional' ( if you know what i'm sayin)

men do not have to worry about competition from other men, because any lazy, ugly f**k can get a girlfriend, as long as he blags.. so many decent girls with low self esteem... so many losers they settle for. everyone knows that the woman is deemed as the primary carer of her kids.. i don't care how much any man protests to 'helping out'. in the event a marriage or relationship with kids, breaks up....
Whereas a female has to stay with the kids she has had and because of this maternal bond and unselfish nature is unlikely to try and fob the kids onto someone else in the event of a break up. she may have extra trouble finding a decent partner who will accept that she has kids, because many men are 'allergic' to raising kids they did not 's****''. And even then , the woman has to worry about if this man is decent and for real... He may be abusive to her or children or worse yet abuse them,as is often read about. is he some filthy pervert fronting to be decent? they have to start all over again. To find another 'prince charming'. she wasted her time on the one who was supposed to be 'THE ONE'. you get stupid women out there, convinced they are so desperate to keep a man... i'm not even going to talk about paternity issues...

men whatever their age, they look for a partner, whereas a woman becomes less desirable the older she gets.

they have to try twice as hard to earn their position in the workplace and cannot 'rely' on some 'old boys network' to get recognized or promoted for her work.
not every woman's life will be like this. but the possibilities of and hardships of a woman's life are great. much greater than 'those' who subject them to 'double standards' and 'social rules' they could not live with themselves.

men can carry on with this double standard of a 'woman's sexual history', but
basically, i will never respect any man or woman as much as i respect real black women... they have so much more to deal with in life and have to have their shit together in every department. In fact, I will never fully respect men, especially because of the shit they try and subject women to and the shit they try to pull, without a second thought. sometimes it seems men's whole damn lives can be about about blaggin. I mean to command so much respect and do so little? all the sterotypes and stigmas that can be attached to a female if they step a foot wrong.... whether social, sexual, in the workplace and familial. All the constraint till the day the day they die. it does not bear thinkin about.

i don't business, black women are the shit. we are realest. 'Other' women, just succumb to the f**ked up shit that is around them and even if they do appear strong they don't realize still, how little they have to deal with on a day to day basis in comparison. being a black female in itself should be an 'automated ticket to heaven', whether single, married, single mother, career woman whatever.

so regardless of any of the 'double standards' imposed on us. If lives were judged on 'TRUE STRENGTH' women would come out on top.