@idontknowhyino : its obvious that me calling him is not enough for him to get the message, if i stoped being so open to him he will soon get bored and will not call me as much and then give me a chance to move on and clear my head.

@kunjufu: while i appreciate you taking the time out to respond i do not think you read my post properly. I never said i loved him and i'm not looking for the 'truth'. I know we cant be together as if it was ment to be we would have been together by now, as I have told him when heasked me in the past. You were right about it being destructive thats why I want to get out of the cycle as it is going nowhere.

MyOP was asking for advice on trying to get over someone or a peperspective from someone who had been in a simular situation. I dont see that as being a stupid question as i'm surethere are a few people whohave felt this way about someone at some stage.