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Shemsi en Tehuti · (#1 (**permalink**))

I am not saying that it is solely the fault of Black women that Black men look towards White women, or other lighter races, but I am arguing that they play a significant role in it. Now, if a Black man wants a White woman, Asian woman, or whoever, then it doesn't matter. He is going to end up with that. However, I think in many cases Black men are implicitly told by Black women that lighter or whiter is better.

Growing up, I would hear often Black women saying how ugly another girl was because she was dark-skinned, when they were not even light-skinned themselves, buthaving amedium-to-dark brown complexion. But at the same time, they would become jealous of lighter-skinned women saying, "she think she cute." When there wasn't a streak of jealousy, it seemed they would only acknowledge the lightest-skinned girls as the prettiest.

Then there was who was actually pretty. Black women seemed to only compliment others as pretty if they had more European features...that being a more slender nose, thin lips, etc. Then it didn't help when they would chastise each other if someone didn't have a perm every 30 days so that their natural hair wouldn't show through. And if it did, Black women seemed the harshest in pointing out a girls "nappy azz wig."

Then there are the cosmetics, from hair styling to make up. Our already beautiful black women spend lots of money on weaves so that their hair appears to be "long and flowing"...blah! Then the make upis oftenstyledto look more like a White girl, rather than accentuate the features of a Black woman. One example is Black women using blush...confused3...I don't get this. Or how about the use of the lipstick colors that White women use?...Black women really look like clowns doing so, but the women who use colors that are more natural to the tone of Black skin, they are the truly beautiful ones.

All the while, Black men often see this behavior from mothers, sisters, and other females in their family or who they interact with. It is only logical that it unconsciously registers in the brain that lighter skin and straight hair is beautiful and desireable...or morefranklyput, white is right. I mean, it often appears most desireable amongst our own women, so what real choice is a man given? Black women trying to be White, or White women who actuallyare White. There are natural Black women, but from my experience, they are spread thin and far in between a plethora of Black women idealizing the White standard of beauty.

I have scanned a picture of Erykah Badu & Tyra Banks. I am sorry, but Tyra just looks like she wants to be White. She is certainly beautiful, but she will never measure up to an actual White women who is what Tyra wants to be.

It is simple. A Black woman can never be more beautiful than a White woman at being White. It is like saying what is the most beautiful flower out of a rose and a lily, but your standard of beauty is the lily. White people look at her as certainly attractive, becauseshe is mimickingWhites very well, but theylook at the majority of Black woman as sub-par.Think about it, once you accept a foreign standard of anything, you have justimplicitly declared your inferiority.

If Black men are constantly toldby other Black women thatwomen like Tyra is the epitome of black beauty, then what is the logical conslusion?

Is it consistent with Black men pursuing White women? What say you?