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Shemsi en Tehuti · (#12 (**permalink**))

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I actually understand your point.....me and my friends have always talked about how us women having done more than our fair share in the glorification of white beauty. Especially those bleaching mongrels who are blind to deeper issues they are inflicting on their children.

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I am glad you at least recognize it.

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Mezmerized wrote: BUT, having said that, i do no necessarily agree with the tittle of your thread about us MAKING black men look towards white women.....for a lack of better word, you could have asked how the glorification of white skin and beauty easthetic AFFECT African children later on in life, both male and female.

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I don't think I said Black women are "making" Black men do this, Iasked whether they have "any fault" as to why some of us look towards White women as the object of desire. Perhaps it could be worded more delicately since this is certainly a delicate topic.

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Mezmerized wrote: I think that would be a better way of wording it without sounding like another lousy excuses seeker who is not willing to take responsibility for their own choices.

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I do like how you worded it better. I guess I cannot change it now, unlessone ofthe mods choose to do such.

Mezmerized wrote: Oh and another thing, how come female children don't all grow up to want white men because of the white glorification they see fromtheir mothers??(and FATHERS too may i add......if you could be a fly on the wall of some African fathers, i think u might just give up on life!)

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Some of them do, but most don't because I think Western society is harder on the women in terms of beauty. They don't really focus on the men. How often have you seen a not-so-attractive man with a georgeous woman. Or better yet, as men age, they become more "distinguished," but women just become old. A man can be fat, bald, and uglyand still be accepted by Western mainstream,but not so easily for a slightly overweight aging woman,especiallythose of color.

Mezmerized wrote: Don't get me wrong Thoth, generally women are regarded as the carrier of traditions and cultures, but with us Africans worldwide, our situation is being made worse by both parties having been affected by our predicament for the past 500 years......in light of this, i would be very carefull to slump such a big responsibilty solely on the women's shoulders.

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I wouldn't say it is solely the woman's responsibility, but only that she plays a significant role...especially considering the influence a woman has in African cultures. I'll admit that most men are driven by their other head, and don't make it any better. They couldcertainly show more interest in more natural women, whenever they present themselves. I guess I am just speaking from personal experience.

I remember when I was 16, I brought homemy girl friend who wasvery dark-skinned, had the most beautiful complexion, and I thought she was very pretty. Shedid perm her hair, but I didn't really care. My mother told me she was ugly, and asked why don't I talk to "that pretty (light-skinned)girl from the church that keeps calling the house for you." Are these things something only I have experienced in my little bubble inside the U.S.?

Anyone that knows me, knows that my purpose here isn't to justify hooking up with a snowbird. I just think that some of our problems stem from us not loving ourselves, before wetry to love each other.

--Thoth B3