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Mezmerized · (#30 (**permalink**))

Thoth B3 wrote:

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Mezmerized wrote:

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One question though, have you ever pulled your mother on that issue later on? I ask because it would interesting to see what your mother said and how she would have reacted to you asking such a question.

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I have not. I can talk to my mother about almost anything, but I have always been afraid to confront her on it.My mother raisedme all by herself, and so she isa very strong woman. I don't know if our relationship would be the same there after.

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There is no nicer way i can put this but i trully think your mother is the best person for you talk to about this topic. From what i have read in your response to Abs' post, i think this issue still affects you personaly and the way you view black women in general. Actually your response to Abs has taken back any kind of balance you showed in your earlier responses and, and i will respond to it later....

You say that your mother raised you all by herself, which means that she was your main parent who groomed you and influenced most of your outlook on life.thiswould explain why you see all this idolation of European beauty as the blackwomen's doing, because your first experience of it was from your mother....your fathermight not have beenaround to give you the male perspective on his idea of beauty, so you are probably only focusing on who was most closest to you, which is your mother.

Personaly, i think this thread could go on for 10 pages and i do not think that any of our opinions would make the slightest difference in helping you understand this issue, your only route would be to talk to your mother about it...if you are as close as you claim, and i know what Mamas are like with their boys, i trully believe you would be surprised that she might be willing to give you some perspective on why she behaved that way.

Your fear of things not being the same is a little over board i think.....unless this is one of those issues that are taboo in your household?confused3And given that i have seen you, you are far from what i would call a lighter African, so i would think that your mother could be of brown complexion....so her reaction to your choice of girl is probably what has brought this question to your mind, and perhaps you are worried that you might ruffle some feathers with your mother's feelings about the way she feels about herself.....i am sorry if i am going out of line here, but your response to Abs was of outershock to me so thats the only conclusion i could come up with.