Black_ power,

And in general, we shouldn't. Everytime, I look on the news they always want to make it seem that overweight people are alien species or something. I'm not fat, but I'm what some guys would call a voluputous woman,Not fat not skinny. I remembered that as a child, how my paternal grandmother would make it seem that somwthing was wrong with it. Everybody had to weight under 120lbs. She was more concerned about weight for cosmetic reasons than health reasons.

When you say that it's sad for Black men to love bigger women, What is sad that like my grandmother, you're more worried ( seemingly) about the image about them then what makes them truly great people. The destruction isn't about their weight, the destruction comes when people telling them there is somethng worng with them because of who they are. When it comes to healthy, you have to define it because for some odd reason, we always think that healthy is a skinny person WRONG!!! Just recently, I've learned something interesting about the true defintion of healthy people. About 6 months ago, I was looking at something on theDISCOVERY channel On eof the reporters interviewed a 350lbs man. Do you want to know the interesting fact about this man? He was in his 30-40's, but so far , he was never diagonosed with cancer, high blood pressure or diabetes--diseases that are associated with being obese. In my family, my younger sister had a defective heart valve( which she didn't find out until she was 18), my father is diabetic and I have a young cousin who at age 14 is a diabetic and has high blood pressure. Do you want to know what all three of them have in common? They are all skinny people and do you want to know how they got their aliments? My sister was born with her problem, my father drunk too much alcohol and my cousin at too much junk, drunk too many soda and barely drunk and ate right. Far as the 350lbs man, doctors think that he's healthy because 1 he eats right, drink right and he tried to live a stress free life. The more I think about it, I think food more than the size of person is why some people develop these problems.

Even worse, we're going to mentally destroy people with this kind of thinking. I'll confess becausae of my grandmother, I almost came close to killing my crazy self because of anorexia because I wanted to "LOOK GOOD" for society. There is something else that people should learn about being fat/skinny. Just because somebody get smaller don't mean they look good in their new bodies. Some people don't consider their body frame. Just like me, I lost a lot of weight at one point, but it didn't look good because I'm big boned. I had my doctor to tell me that they older people get and depending on their body frame, everybody should try to get too think because it may not look right on them and secondly, and mostly because oddly, it can create another health crisis for you.

I don't know about you but we shouldn't make overweight people feel bad because of who they are, nor should be discriminatory about health. everybody whether healthy or skinny should want to be healthy. You hear on the news about how some of the most healthies smallest people end up falling out and dying for no understandable reason. Another thing, overweight doesn't always have to come from food. Some people get big because of their medication( eg Birth control, asthma medication, etc), of their condition like having a hyperthyridal problem, post-surgery, pregnancy etc, there are a million and one things that can make you overweight besides food.

That last thing that I learned about society we're in love with fiction. We love the way people look and not them as human beings. We think that the man/woman we get are going to look like Boris Kodjoe and Beyonce for the rest of their lives. Now how many of us can say that we're( even they) are going to look like that years later or even in the near future?( Speaking of Beyonce, many men consider her to be sexy, but she's full figured and she' prone to get big). I would rather for man to love me first than my body second because we never know how things may " look" in our future.