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Gmahogany · (#28 (**permalink**))

Maat wrote:

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How then do you know it is true love and not just that you have "gotten used to" or "become accustomed to" the person in your life where you feel you need them really only because your interaction with them has become habitual?

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The longer the relationship lasts the more accustomed you get to the person anyway and that's where I suppose you can take each other for granted even without realizing it.... Defining it so much is a big obstacle I think. The real tests arewhether youcome out of the storms together or apart.....Gosh if so many have neverfeltclose enough to someone to considerate it love then what do you all do in your relationships?? Is everything parttime??Does that mean that you all start off on guard and never let anyone in?...man I feel old

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You're right, Maat. I think most people think of love as just this "feeling", rather than a proactive act, day in and day out(the reason some will claim to love someone,but constantly engage in actions that contradict that). With true love, I think you have to make a conscious decision, at some point to "do love". In other words, behave in a loving way through your actions,even when it involves denying yourself something, kind of like a mother's love, or a father's love in some instances.