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Gmahogany · (#4 (**permalink**))

I don't think forgiveness is always in order. Some things are not forgiveable. It depends on a lot of things. Are we talking about forgiving someone for talking about you behind your back/steals from you/cheats on you, or someone who kills your loved one/tries to kill u? Are we talking about forgiving them in the sense of not actively seeking revenge, or inviting them to your house for dinner? I think people throw the term around a lot, without really thinking about what it means. Like back in the 60's for example. Forgive/love your enemy, blah blah blah. I don't think lack of forgiveness is always about holding malice or having some burning hatred against someone, I think it can be about feeling that balance needs to be restored and it needs to be made clear that the offending behavior won't be tolerated, it's not necessarily emotional for me. In my mind, certain actions necessitate certain consequences, NOT having that occur, causes me distress. Once it occurs, I'm straight, lol.