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10-05-06, 02:18 AM
liberiangirl wrote:
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I was reading an article the other day on forgiveness and it got me thinking.
The usual reasons as to why someone would forgive are:
1) It helps you let go of the anger and resentment holding you down
2) not forgiving someone gives them power over you
3) It frees you
Some of the reasonsome peopledont forgive are:
1) If the person you forgave keeps on commiting the same wrong again and again.
2)that someone has commited you or do you believe that there are some things that are simply unforgivable.
So do you guys believe in that forgivness should be for everything, or do you think that some things are not to be forgiven?
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Forgiveness, in its truest form, is psychologically being able to move past a situation that has caused one injury.
Not only does it comprise the aspect of no longer holding resentment against the individual or individuals who wronged us but it is predicated on being able to attain a compensation and a restoration ofour pride which allows us to move forward with our lives.
Revenge and forgiveness are both attempts to do the same thing. To alleviate ourselves of the resentment that we feel and to act as a compensation and restore our pride from the injury that we have sustained.
A person who is not able to do this, one way or another, usually goes through life embittered by some event that he can’t “shake off�. That is the purpose of forgiveness … and interestingly enough, it is also the purpose of revenge. The purpose is to shake off the event and gain a psychological compensation.
There are many people who say they have forgiven … but they haven’t. As far as revenge is concerned, that doesn’t always work either.
How many 30 year olds do you know who still blame their parents for their rotten lives. These people have not been able to “shake off� the past. They are haunted by these deamons until they find a way to get past it and achieve some kind of compensation. Whether they revenge themselves, or they are able to forgive, they will probably be stuck in bitterness and in the past. They will blame some event in the present on “I had a bad childhood�.
People who attempt forgivenessorrevengeare both attempting to do the same thing in different ways.
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And just because you have forgiven somebody doesn't mean you have to be around them. That is beside the point.
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