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Kibibi · (#36 (**permalink**))

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Mezmerized wrote:

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A lot of people have had their say about the issue of HIV/AIDS within African communities worldwide...yet no one IMHO has really, i mean REALLY looked at it from the stand point of HOW it became an African problem. I believe this is due to the fact that MAJORITY of the people who are actually making MORE noise about in the OPEN are not Africans themselves....so what we have is the patern(just as with everything else) where outsiders have more ideas or opinions about how it became an African problem.

Having had personal close experience of HIV, i trully belive the reason it has affected us more than any other race is pure and simple: IGNORANCE!

I can honestly say thatÂ*from the momentÂ*i could understand what HIV wasÂ*when i was litle to NOW...nothing has changed inÂ*regards to the attitude of Africans when it comes to facing up to the reality ofÂ*HIV/AIDS.

When i was little i sawÂ*one person after another who were courageous enough to tell everyone being shunned and driven toÂ*early graves because of Africans' reluctance to DEAL with ANY issues that they may find CHALENGING.

FamiliesÂ*would turn againstÂ*each other, friends wouldÂ*shun their friends and so on.Â*Because of theÂ*SUICIDALÂ*colonial sex education muddled up withÂ*ignorant understanding of RELIGIONS, Africans went intoÂ*frenzy of attacks against anyone whoÂ*came up and declared that they were HIV+

And in 2006, we are reaping the consenquences of this IGNORANCE...we are reanacting the Bible stories of lepersÂ*and soÂ*on.....Because of our COLLECTIVE ignoranceÂ*and over religiousÂ*cultures, we have raised a whole generation after generation of people who are not mature and educated enough to face upÂ*to the realities of this epidemic.

In Africa and here, i have witnessed people who reactÂ*to this culture of "keeping yourÂ*lip shut" by living a lie and therefore going around passing this disease toÂ*others withÂ*MALICIOUS intentions of taking as many with them as posible.....and i have heard people in theÂ*West, Africans included, say that these people are just pure evil without realising that they are merely living a life of ignorance and denial which their communities encourages majority of times.

But my point is this, It does not matter what you think ofÂ*them, at the end of the day, the community suffers beyond repair each time one of us is diagnosed, yet feels that he or she is an EVIL person anyways....so whats the point of trying to be good to aÂ*community that teaches you day in dayÂ*out that sex is dirty, and if you catch anything, you are evil(even though we know that we are an over sexed bunch of idiots with no control once we see ass, vagina, penis etc (delete as appropriate)

Many might not identify with what i am saying here, butÂ*whatÂ*i am writing is what i have seen back in Africa and experienced in more than 3 African countries whichÂ*i lived in previously.Â*

Both men and women are still living back in the early 20th century colonial education which really sucks the INTELLIGENCE and COMMON SENSEÂ*out of them. Add that missionary styleÂ*RELIGIOUS nonesense and you have a whole bunch of millions who live in denial after denial about theirÂ*life styles.Â*

African men and women's conduct to sex isÂ*crossing that animalistic nature where no one CARES to really examine what they are doing. As a young woman, i am sure other sisters can backÂ*me on this, i have come acrossÂ*African men who would rather go coldÂ*turkey then wear a CONDOM.....and this is the case 9.9% of the time.Â*African men HATES condoms like no other men on this earth....evenÂ*if he is married with aÂ*family, he would rather put his family in danger than wear a condom if he is cheating. I have hadÂ*MOST men say that kissing is more intimate than sex......

Â*How they come up with that, i don't know.

African women in turn are just not there yet with CONFIDENCE and the ability to be ASSERTIVEÂ*to judge whom they decide to have unprotective sex with.Â*Just a few weeks ago, my cousin's friend asked her boyfriend to go get tasted....he REFUSED....yet the stupid womanÂ*decided to let it go andÂ*continued to sleep with him unprotected!

Â*And this isÂ*NORMAL behaviour with MILLIONS of African women.....i don't know about the Caribbean and the US, but in Africa, its the f**kingg NORM for women to just "trust" him that he is clean!! **sighs**

My aunty is a midwife here in the UK and 99% of theÂ*PREGNANT African women who have to get tasted for HIVÂ*are ALWAYS mad nervous...most even confiding in her that they were NOT sureÂ*if they were healthy or not.....which she is always asking WHY?? Why get pregnant by a man that you are not even sure is healthy and faithful to YOU?? Lets just say she has neverÂ*goten aÂ*clear answer. The closest she has come to an answer is that African women keep repeating that OUR men hates condoms and that they areÂ*mostlyÂ*sure that he might be playing around.Â*The opinions of C African women is VERY worrying andÂ*unless there is MASS education to combat this, the whole continent is going to get worse in regards to HIV/AIDS rates!

We need to TALK about this untill we are exausted from talking!! We need to stop shunning our people who are HIV+, find ways to provide cheap life saving medicines so the sufferersÂ*do not feel like they are alone and its them against the closed minded masses.

We need to REAVALUATE our approaches to sex education EQUALLY amongst our men and women.....but ESPECIALLY our YOUTHS.

We need to admit that poverty=unhealthy cultures where members of African communities the world over feels more disulusioned in many ways than is good for any society to progress.

Finally, we need to OPEN our eyes, be open minded about our friends and family members who come to us if they are diagnosed with HIV, make them feel that they are STILL valuable members of our societies who can still live a fullfiling life and SHOULD take responsibilities for everyone else when it comes to sex.

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