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glorybee · (#1 (**permalink**))

I would like to sharea very disturbingexperience that happeneda few months ago which left me really shockedbut quite frankly justified my thoughts about how a lot of so called black people really feel about "the black skin". I am a black skinned woman, always have been and always will be and I do love my blackcomplexion but it seems a lot of black peopledo have a problem with skin colour. I am in my early 40s.

I was out with my son one Saturday afternoon and decided to get a bite to eat. We sat outside the restaurant as it was a lovely day. There was another black woman there with her two children eating also. Whilst there a little argument broke out between me and the woman over something really trivial.Aside from what the real issue was about she then went on to get very personal and started hurling abuseat me. Telling me she doesn't speak to people as black as me and that I should go back to Africa. I asked her isn't she black herself and where does she think she comes from. She said she is not as black as me and that she doesn't come from where I come from. Her daughter who looked about 15 said I come from Portugal because the black people there are really black like me.She told me I was a piece of shit, etc etc. I toldthem that she needed to go back to school and learntheir history because it's clear she doen't know who she is or where she comes from and how she is making herself look and sound really stupid.They just carried on abusing and insulting me saying that I don't exactly look like Jo Lo or Beyonce and claimed I was nothing to look. I can tell you I do look much better than them. Her daughterand son who was about 9 joined in claiminghow my hairis picky picky which it isn't. I said I am a natural black woman and am proud of who I am and if you're not proud of who you are then you are the one with the problem. I even noticedtheir hairwasn't much to talk about either, the mother hadchemically treated hair and the daughter was wearing a weave thatdidn't even suit her and looked like a ragged mop which I told them so. I really didn't want to get into this sort of argument as I felt it was really demeaning and humiliating for us to be carrying on like thatand it really sounded pathetic.I didn't want to lower myself to their standard but whilst we were there they carried on and on with the insults and abuse until I left.When I did get up to leave I went over and said to her that she is no better than me just because she may be a shade browner than me. She claimed she was. I told her that she needs to go and find out about herselfbecause obviously her mother and father is black, so what does that make her. She then got up as if she wanted to fight me. I left with my son who was quite upset by this time. She and her children ran me down to where I had parked my car telling me that Ilook like amonkey and me and my son are ugly. I would add that all this was going on in a place where it was predominantly white people anda lot of them just stood around listening and laughing. I really couldn't believe what was going on myself. I was so shocked that inthe year 2006, black people really still havethis kind of mentality and it seems clear to me that things will never change between us as black people. We have no love or respect for each other and I really can't see it getting any better.

I would be glad to hear your views.