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michsm2 wrote:

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Was it wrong of me to leave him?

So, I told my best friend of more than 3 years that I needed to distance myself away from him for a while on the phone. I like him more than a friend but he is engaged to his girlfriend. We are both 21. I also told him I have no idea when I will ever contact him. I am depressed and hurt because I rather not ruin his relationship than tell him I really like him. I want him to forget about me.

He called me, but I refused to pick it up. He left a message on the answering machine to please call him and that he loves me like a sister and if he does not hear from me in a week he will try to see me and may have his people search for me! He just kept calling and calling.

I just can't do it anymore people. He is so attached to me, but I am not his girlfriend. Sometimes, I wish I had never met him despite wonderful emotional memories with him. We have very similar tastes and can read each other minds, but I am the one who is always alone. I am the one who is always depressed.

Therefore, I decided to leave him. I cannot continue to cry every night.

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Greetings Sistren

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I see why you would be feeling like you are but I don't know why you have chosen the action you have. I do not want to seem cold but sis you must have more in life to look forward to than your friend. If he is such a good friend I do not understand why you would throw that away. Focus on the rest of your life, focus on bettering yourself and be patient with time. I once wanted to be with a friend of mine but she was with someone so I left it at that, her friendship was more important to me than having her as my girlfriend. It took a while but I did eventually end up with her after about a year or so. I was just patient. I focused on making myself a better person and enjoying all of the plentiful gifts that the most high gives me everyday.

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I understand you are feeling pain sis but you will find your way into his arms if you are meant to. however I fear having him as a friend may now be out of the question because if you try to talk to him again he will ask why you gave him air in the first place and you will have to tell him.

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PS another reason why this may not be such a good idea is if there was ever any chance of you getting together in later life that may fade because he may not forgive you for this if you leave it too long. Think it over but don't get too weighed down by it. You have many plentiful things to give thanks for. worry about that instead.

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I hope all goes well for you sistren, and by the grace, beauty and strength of the most high's love i'm sure it will.

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Give thanks

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Hotep.

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