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Peacemaker · (#7 (**permalink**))

michsm2 wrote:

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Was it wrong of me to leave him?

So, I told my best friend of more than 3 years that I needed to distance myself away from him for a while on the phone. I like him more than a friend but he is engaged to his girlfriend. We are both 21. I also told him I have no idea when I will ever contact him. I am depressed and hurt because I rather not ruin his relationship than tell him I really like him. I want him to forget about me.

He called me, but I refused to pick it up. He left a message on the answering machine to please call him and that he loves me like a sister and if he does not hear from me in a week he will try to see me and may have his people search for me! He just kept calling and calling.

I just can't do it anymore people. He is so attached to me, but I am not his girlfriend. Sometimes, I wish I had never met him despite wonderful emotional memories with him. We have very similar tastes and can read each other minds, but I am the one who is always alone. I am the one who is always depressed.

Therefore, I decided to leave him. I cannot continue to cry every night.

Oh dear. You refuse to see and talk to someone you like, but probably would spend many hours arguing with someone you dislike. Sad thing is thatyour emotional pain is caused by you not being honest with your friend regardless of the results of confession or the current situation.

Have you done the right thing?

Probably not! your emotions are telling you that, that is what they are there for. Don't punish him because you can't control or changeyour own, sorry to be harsh but that is the simple truth of it.