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Peacemaker · (#9 (**permalink**))

michsm2 wrote:

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Peacemaker, what is the point? He is engaged. He will get married soon. I cannot like him, and he cannot like me. Yes, based on what I heard from others, he was very depressed over my actions like someone killed his pet or something. But over time he will realize that he cannot get too close to me. It's only fair. His fiancee will be able to give him the happiness that I could not give him both emotionally and sexually. She is smart, intelligent and very beautiful. I wish those two happiness forever.

Running away isn't going to solve anything for any of you...besides you'll always be tempted to get in contact again, day after day, year after year especially if you like each other so much. It's going to be torture...unless you REALLY don't want to talk to each other again.

From what I've heard, you sound like you need each other's friendship no matter what you feel for each other. Don't deny yourself that or him either, regardless, it might turn out to be a more important factor in your lives in the long term.

If he was dying from cancer you wouldn't try andescape from his life, so why do it for something that isn't as serious as you think it is right now.

We're not around for too long in one life, so don't waste it....only to live it with regret and sorrow.

And it is much easier to be just friends with somone you love than not to have them in your life at all. In each case you're going to have to deal with the hurt anyway, so why not deal with the one that you will lose lessfrom in the end.

Right now you're taking the hard way when you don't need to.