Wifeable. I hear a lot of women say this and it is unrealistic. You cannot hide your children or live in constant fear or hope that they will not meet such trouble. You better prepare them to know how to handle it and such situations.

One thing is being an aggressor, the other is being a punk who everyone can impose themselves on. Two different things. But a well brought up child with strong values will make the right choices of when to fight and when not and where to do it. For example not in the street as you described.

My parents would die if they heard things my brothers and I did, but we would probably be dead or crippled etc if we didn't.

It's about balance and context. You can't hide your kids because I worked places where bad boys in numbers reach and come to nice youth clubs to prey on those types of kids.