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06-02-07, 04:21 PM
Some very good tips and advice already posted.
for my tuppence worth. When I am in that situation and it happens every now again. I do the following:
A. "Hello Jack could I have a word with you a some where private ?" Always mentioned in a crowd his or her crowd even better.
B. "Jack..........(Pause for seriousness of the word) you might not be aware of this, and I am sure you are not doing it on purpose, however when you..........................., and then.....................It gives me the impression that you are ................................ have I got that right or am I mistaken?
C. Jack "Le Moor.....you've got it all wrong ( they never admit it)or racist variation your too sensitive. Whatever their answer the response is.
D. "Ok Jack, so let me see if I have this right when you dosay............you don't mean to..................well would you mind ceasing doing that as its sending out the wrong message...........IS THAT ALL RIGHT BY YOU?
E. On leaving the private place, be seen to be (shaking hands with offender, smiling or whatever demonstrating the the issue is resolved)
usually these things can be a misunderstanding but sometimes as pointed out it's deliberate the object is to let them know that you are fully aware of what they are doing and you object therefore to continue is nothing short of an admission of provacation. niceone.gif
More importantly if they make a big thing outof the meeting you simply deny that you said such athing:
"and bythe is that what he said..........?"
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