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Happiness · (#10 (**permalink**))

Respect, Peace and Love wrote:

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This was actually written by a friend, who asked me to stick it on the forum since she's not a member. It was actually written as a song (verse two wasthe refrain).

She actuallywrote this after a conversation she and I had about how people make you feel like being single is always your own fault for being 'too fussy' etc:

I won't apologise for being sick of being alone

Or for searching for that someone to help build my happy home.

But nor will I apologise for knowing my own worth

Or for wanting to find someone who thinks I'm worth putting first.

I canâ€™t wait to be a wife, and

I canâ€™t wait to share my life

But for refusing to settle for less than I deserve

And for waiting for the magic of a true and lasting love

And for wanting to find someone to share all I have to give

I will not apologise.

All my life Iâ€™ve struggled just to get to where I am

Thatâ€™s the burden and the blessing that a strong black woman has

Sometimes to protect myself I may seem hard as stone

But that doesnâ€™t mean that I deserve to spend my life alone.

And people, please stop saying â€œitâ€™ll happen any dayâ€?

Or â€œas soon as you stop looking, Mr Right will come your wayâ€?.

I know thereâ€™s someone out there whose life I could make complete

I just wish there was a way I could ensure weâ€™d ever meetâ€¦.

RPL- just wanted to give your friend some encouragement. Dont pay Igncognito any mind - you have to know him to understand why he reacted as he did to the song. Having said that, I do undertand why he had a gut reaction to your friend's song.

I am the quintessential strong, black woman and I absolutely believe that there is nothing wrong in knowing your own worth. But in the quest for a husband it is probably more important to know the worth of your man and to focus on preparing yourself for that role of wife.

It's a 2 way street, you know, it s not just about you going out there "selecting" - its also about you asking yourself: what makes me so special that the man that I would select would, in fact, also select me?

just my thoughts.