I feel for you ladies. My wife and I have been through it three times. All boys. The funny thing is they all went through it at different ages. Anywhere from two to four. LadyDay if your son is responding to a stern warning from you and his father you may not have to spank him at all. All children do not respond to spankings. If talking to him is what works for him I would just keep doing that until he no longer pays attention.

He sounds like a very intelligent boy to me to have that level of understanding and discipline at 18 months.His temper says to me that he is a strong willed boy. Our first and second born sons were that way. I was like you, I was about to pull my hair out searching for answers. I talked to so many people trying to compare notes.

For example our first born was the same way. I could look at him and raise my voice and stop him in histracks. Our middle son was and is so stubborn, spankings raised voice you name itnothing wouldget through to him. Until I started taking toys and privileges away. Our youngest boy, just the threat of aspanking and hestarts crying.

Having said all of that,you really have to be very attentive to what makes him tick. If you pay close attention to the way he reacts to you and your husband you will see something that will let you knowwhat kind of discipline will work best for him.

Sorryfor being so long winded.