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blessingfromgod wrote:

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Sorry to hear this Footprints. I dont have any experiences to share but I do wish her well.

Thank you BFG, this girl is the closest I have ever had to sister and I am just not ready to let her go...I wonder where I can refer her to for help, because she refuses to talk to anyone about what she is going through including her husband...she puts on a brave face for everyone but I can see through her, she has lost massive weight and she says she hardly sleeps because she is scared to die and leave her little baby. She is the nicest person ever, I dont know how this illness silently creeped on her, she was a vegetarian and an aerobic queen - not to mention drop dead gorgeouslooks - now all that is left is waif of size zero. I have accompanied her many times to christian crusades where they pray for healing - and I have seen a few improvements ( this has even suprised the doctors, because they initially told her nothing could save her). I am really feeling helpless, I wish I could carry some of her pain. I have sent her some literature of encouragement but with the chemotherapy, she is not always strong enough to read it, because her little strength is spent on her baby ( a baby she is severly attached to, I have been turned down so many times to babysit). Life is so unpredictable she has all these dreams to become a fashion designer she is really creative and all, but has lost that spark and inspiration - though a part of her is fighting to stay alive and positive another very active part seems to be anticipating this death because those stupid doctors only ever tell her the worst news, I dont know if other black people can relate to the treatment the doctors dish out to black patients. Her immediate family seem to be avioding this topic and dont really talk about it, I think they find it too difficult or it is some taboo to talk about terminal illness, I really dont know. If peeps could PM me/ openly postany links or information, I would really appreciate this.