Footprints,

By the words of your post you didn't have sex with him and thank god that you didn't. You have probably heard you mother or good friends say it, but if a man really loves you, he's going to wait on you and he's not going to walk out on you. Hon, just because you decide to sleep with him doesn't mean he was going to stick around. That was his way of manipulating you into his bed and leaving you after the fact. Rarely ,do they do that, virgin or non virgin. Lame it it may sound to some people, there is nothing wrong with being a virgin, nor is there is anything wrong with a man to wait on you. Any fool can have sex, but to make love is person who not only want and going to be with you during the think and the thick.

It may have hurt you that he left you for another " experienced" woman, but look at it this way, you're not missing anything. Trust me and the posters on the Blacknet. What would have happended if you would have gotten deeply involved with this guy.This could have been your future 1- The man could have gotten you pregnant and left you and the kids2 Even worse, you be stuck with some veneral disease or AIDS( not to say that you wouldn't use any protection, but the what if factor has to come up), You almost haveing a nervous breakdown because of heartbreak . I'm 35 years old and In my younger days, I remembered women/girls who talked with you. as a result some of them are grandparents before theri time. I lost two good friends to AIDS and one who was a victim of domestic violence because of her " dreamguy".I don't know your age( I'm going to assume that you may be young), but look at your virginity as a blessing. Don't rush into a relationship if it is meant to be, that special man will come and with him you're going to make love in more than one way and it's going to be special , between you and him.