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Maat · (#4 (**permalink**))

Hey Apedemak (what does that mean by the way?),

I agree with your title in that understanding the ego is important but as you also rightfully pointed out, sometimes we are too busy stroking the ego for personal gain that we have no interest in controlling our ego.

There's nothing wrong with doing things that make you feel better but when you have to start putting others down and playing completely petty politics and games to keep yourself in the positon that for some reasonis soimportant...then you have lost. No matter how much you may think you have won. You lose your people, you lose their trust, you lose your respect and you lose your self. All to chase that Energy on the Go!

I'm glad you made mention about some and I stress only some of our organisations being lead by people sometimes who have let the ego get the better of them to our collective detriment. Who these conflicts affect seems to be the outcome of such problems. I at one point didn't think that there were many organisations out there that we actually ran and were for our interests as a people but there are loads. We just don't seem to be hearing enough about them and if more of them did join together in their efforts then perhaps their existence would be more apparent.

I'm finding inour business community this is also happening but to answer your question, the bigger problem seems to be aHUGE LACK OF TRUST. This is clear in our social circles and also in our family circles and to be honest I'msick and tiredof hearing and seeing it.....then from time to time we'll get agitated about why we cannot unite :X.

Is egotism our biggest problem and if so how can it be fought? The first thing that needs to happen is that if the ego is out of control ithas tobe recognized by the person themselves. The only thing with that though is it couldn't possibly be them who has a problem it's the other person/people right? *shakes head * classic !!

How many people do you know (never mind in a positon of power or control) that could actually admit "yeah ok I did this or that to get at you and I was wrong". In fact how many people can actually say the simple word sorry?!!!!. Honesty hurts waaaay too much for that and the false satisfaction that can come from misuse of the ego probably brings even more satisfaction.

Trying to end on a positive note though, the ego is all about I nessand if we practised more of the we ness we could actually achievemuch muchmore TOGETHER. Herewe go again with the rose tinted shades on LOL.