Originally Posted by Oblivion

They say that you never know who your real friends are, until your back is against the wall. Your friend is in a very dark place - and you are a star that shines in the darkness. A friend like yourself, is more valuable than the most precious diamond.

You must continue to be strong for her. This means being there when she needs you - trying to answer any questions she has and being available when she wants to talk. It also means knowing when to give her space and time to contemplate. Facing death is often the most lonely time in a person's life cycle. Your friend's family sound as if they are in denial. This is understandable - people often deny reality when it is too painfull to face. However, having you by her side and her baby in good health, will bring tremendous comfort - even if this isn't openly apparent.

The reason that she often refuses offers to babysit her child is simple. She knows that time grows short and that every moment spent with the baby is an important bonding experience.

You are a good person. I know from experience that there will be times when you will doubt yourself. You may feel helpless, guilty and even the desire to run away from the pain. This is completely natural. All that matters is that you remain by your friend's side as much as you can. The rest cannot be controlled - only coped with.

If the worst should happen, just remember that your friend's life was not in vain. A beautiful baby has resulted from her time on this earth - and her legacy will contunue long after her body is layed to rest. But until the end, try to remain as positive as possible - sometimes recoveries can occur.

Whatever happens, absolution is always a relief when it comes. Time will heal the rest.

Good luck.

p.s If your friend does not object - I would strongly recommend taking photographs/video footage of her with the baby. Recording those happy moments will bring immense joy when the child is older.