As well as nature taking it's course, i think fathers have also been too lazy in making sure their children are connected to their paternal sides. My brother makes no effort at all for his children to know us. Yet this is the same man who once said that children BELONGS to the MAN....even though his culture says something different.....lol....the way we are so quick to adapt to any culture is amazing...lol

I have had to make all the necessary steps to keep in touch with his wife and so the children, i don't even bother calling him....i just go straight to the wife.

My aunties on my dad's side were really amazing, but then again it's my dad's culture that helped, we have a weird and brilliant culture where women are like the heads of the families....so we HAD to know them because they were always around telling me dad off all the time....lol