In animal husbandry, the bull, stallion, donkey is used to provide the substance of procreation and his job is done, while the female of the species is left to feed and maintain the young one.
I know lots of men who chose that role and many also who do not want to have children quoting that they are not prepared to commit to fatherhood. I also see far more men who don’t verbalise that but who mean it by their actions.
Men are equally as valuable in the procreation of children because despite modern technology, women cannot provide the substance needed to make a child and, visa versa. Therefore no-one has that monopoly. But it is just easier for a man to ‘dig up’.
Surely, deciding when to have a child is a COUPLE’S decision?
Or is it that people are too used to just accepting a one sided decision, later justifying why they are not playing their part by ‘she trapped me’. Or is it that men and women don’t talk about what they really want, or the assumption on the woman’s part is that he is there for the long haul, when in fact, he is only there for the moment with no long term commitment? Unfortunately a lot of children are born under those circumstances.
I have a cousin, nicknamed the farmer and the reason he is called that is because he is planting his seed here there and everywhere like a farmer plants seeds. Action which I think is thoroughly irresponsible because he can’t afford to maintain all those children. Nor does he have anything to give them in terms of education, identity, and belonging.
Yes, procreation is a fundamental part of life and children are an important role in that continuum. But men and women who recognise that children are a part of life, should also recognise that children are not commodities, they are individuals that need love, nurturing, protection etc.
But isn’t it the case that people tend to invest more thought, time and care into buying a car, than when it comes to their own blood?
And isn’t it the case that a lot of us cannot differentiate between animal and human behaviour? Human’s make choices!




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