thanksyou shemsi,peacemaker,blaze and chaniray,

1.I wont tell...the fact that 60% of spouses do it is a bit re-assuring but i wish i was among the 40%.

2.i wont do it again...av already broken up with "the other man" and i feel relieved.(it was not that hard really...the sex was not that mind blowing anyway...just that i had not done it close to 9 months)

3. Chaniray...i also thought that i would never do it,but with my hubby being away i slipped...i pray you never do.(and if you ever do,please tell me...so i can look smug.hahaha,im kidding)

4.thanks for your words and wisdom