Originally Posted by Happiness

Absolutely you should speak to him!

Parents are people too - sometimes we are flawed and come with all that that means. There is no perfection in parenthood...we struggle in adulthood as much as we struggled in childhood. One just hopes that along the way, there are enough tools learnt to allow navigation through life. Perhaps your father has grown and has learnt the tools necessary to have an adult relationship with you....perhaps he hasn't and it will be more of the same.

Either way, you should make peace with your father. The key being that now that you are an adult you should have clear boundaries as to what you will or will not accept (as hopefully you have with anybody that you interact with)

This leg of the journey is now about you and the tools you are learning. So go ahead and speak to your father.

Good luck!