Wow thanks for the responses. I will try my best to reply to each of them


@ Black Lion

I persoally do not think now is the time to talk to the school yet. From my little brother has told me it seems like school boy banter.

I thinik he is just having trouble making that transition from primary to seconadary school, and having to start all over again to make friends.

He does seem to lack confidence, I noticed that a long time ago.


@Talibha

I kinda did start my investigations a while ago. Whenever he comes back from school I would ask him how was scholl, etc, and would make my conclusion based on his body language, his mood, etc.

The problem is at times I am not sure f he is being 100% straight with me. He told me at first that he doesnn't play with anyone during break times. Then he told me he plays patball with people from the 3rd Set. etc.


He did say though he has had a few childish kinda beefs with a certain boy. They both threw each others pencil cases in the bin. Then the boy started cussing him saying ...He is a Tramp, He smells, etc.

I asked my bro did he argue back, and he siad he does, but the other guy has back up, in the sense that he has more friends in the class than he does.


I think he is sensitive to it, and it kinda upsets him, as he did face a similar problem with a certain boy back in primary school.



@Bredder Tukoma


I actually don't think its a race problem, more of a confidence issue.

I think this is an area we have not worked on enough. He goes to a certain club every saturday and mingles with people is age, doing various activities, however thats not enough.

Im gonna have to grab the bull by its horns and install some form of street smarts into him.

I persoanlly think that to some extent he has been smuthered too much.

Me and my brothers from a young age knew ow to handle ourselves, i.e school fights, how to act in certain situations.

It seems he does not seemed to have picked it up


I see your point about crewa, however it doesn't always end up like that.

I went to a school where black people ruled, and lets just say it was hard to build alliances with a bunch of double crossingm two fcae *******s. By the time I had finished secondary school I was fully aware of the difference between FRIENDS and ACQUANTANCES.


@NJ Shaw

I will give him time, however I will definatley keep my eye on him. I won't allow this to go on for the rest of his school life.



@Melissa

I actually agree with you on the point of asking him to pick his battles. Its just the issue of making REAL friends that is the problem.

I asked him who he comes back home with. He siad at times by himself, or at other htimes he kinda walks with a group of boys kinda like a cling on.,



@Talibha

Bad idea removing him. He has to learn to face his demons now.

The local schools in my area ssuck big time. The top 3 schools are private schools.

All the others apart from 2 which are near iimpossible to get into due to the waiting list are hell holes.