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11-07-08, 10:36 PM
brooklyngirl, you are soooo right. i find that a great majority of the people i come in contact with have grown up without a father and have constant relationship drama. they appear dislluisioned and expect to get a mate that will cater to their needs. it seems as though they are looking for someone to get over on.
i, too, grew up with both my parents and i find that the guys i have dated in the past seem to be resentful and was a problem in the relationship, always being paranoid and having to have their friends all in the relationship. i since then have not given a so-called "thug" the time of day.
i am now, just starting a new relationship with a brother who was raised by both parents and is truly a loving black man. he experienced very similiar things i have with the past women he has dated. i am so glad we have gotten together. he doesn't want to be a thug nor am i looking for some money man to buy me all kinds of things, so i can brag to my friends.
it seems like a great deal of black folks in the community have that distorted way of thinking.
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