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Travelling Solo - 22-11-09, 08:46 PM

This question is especially for Women, but i'm also interested to hear from the Men too.

Have you done this before?

Where did you go?

How long did you stay for and how did you plan your time away?

What recommendations would you give to a first time solo traveller?

I have been considering travelling solo for some time now, but always end up chickening out. I think too much about safety issues as a female (with good reason), but I'm finally going to do it, as waiting around for others proves too long winded and there is always that clash of what people want to do and where to go; different interests etc. So I figure, it's time to overcome my fears of travelling solo - there's a huge world to discover. I have found some fab sites and also done some research regarding the places I wish to visit, activites, best hotels etc, so I'm getting more excited about going for it.

Anyhoo, it would be nice to hear about your experience of doing this for the first time.


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This is something I've always considered doing. I've gone on a hiking day-trip by myself. Don't reccemmend it, it was pretty scary and getting lost is only fun when someone is with you.

I have a membership that allows me access to almost every major museum in the U.S. and it's been a dream of mine for some time to take a cross-coastal (east coast) trip to some of these museums. I like odd vacays that most of my friends wouldn't want to spend their money on and the rest of my friends are broke and/or have children.

I'm a professional singleton who loves to travel and hasn't for a while so travelling solo is in the cards for me most likely if I want to travel more.

My friend's mother goes on several international trips each year with a travel group for women but they've gotten to know eachother so I don't know if that still qualifies as "solo". I think it could be a really spiritual experience to travel by yourself. I find I get more of the things I want to do done and see more of the things I want to see when I'm solo. One of the reasons I HATE clothes shopping with other people.


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Hi Afriki, thanks for your reply.

I hear you, friends with a lack of money or children is another of the reason's I figure I have to do this or end up regretting it. Like most people I like to share experiences such as holidays so I have already ruled out places like Dubai, Jamaica, Egypt. I think once I have conquered my first solo trip, it will hopefully help me to do much more things that I wish to achieve in life, and can also be a good way to make friends. I initially thought Europe would have been a good place to start, but I want some sun, I then considered Spain for all of two seconds, as my experience in Barcelona last year was an eye opener to how much they just Luuurve Black folks.. Lol. So I won't be going there again, besides, Barcelona was the only Spanish place that I ever wanted to visit.
I'm considering 2/3 night spa breaks somewhere I can also take in some culture, or a few days In Malta... Not sure yet. Whatever I end up doing, your right about self discovery, this process alone has opened my eyes to how much I can procrastinate over things, before I make a move.

I once knew a women that used to travel solo all the time, she said she would pack her bags and then check the last min airline deals and go... How I admired that. I must try it when I'm more confident in my solo travelling.

I also found a site for women only hol groups, but I haven't checked the site out yet. Sounds like a good way to network and travel; I dont blame your friends Mum. Girl's gotta do what she gotta do.



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Hi Afriki, thanks for your reply.

I hear you, friends with a lack of money or children is another of the reason's I figure I have to do this or end up regretting it. Like most people I like to share experiences such as holidays so I have already ruled out places like Dubai, Jamaica, Egypt. I think once I have conquered my first solo trip, it will hopefully help me to do much more things that I wish to achieve in life, and can also be a good way to make friends. I initially thought Europe would have been a good place to start, but I want some sun, I then considered Spain for all of two seconds, as my experience in Barcelona last year was an eye opener to how much they just Luuurve Black folks.. Lol. So I won't be going there again, besides, Barcelona was the only Spanish place that I ever wanted to visit.
I'm considering 2/3 night spa breaks somewhere I can also take in some culture, or a few days In Malta... Not sure yet. Whatever I end up doing, your right about self discovery, this process alone has opened my eyes to how much I can procrastinate over things, before I make a move.

I once knew a women that used to travel solo all the time, she said she would pack her bags and then check the last min airline deals and go... How I admired that. I must try it when I'm more confident in my solo travelling.

I also found a site for women only hol groups, but I haven't checked the site out yet. Sounds like a good way to network and travel; I dont blame your friends Mum. Girl's gotta do what she gotta do.

Hmm, maybe you could look into Thailand. I've never been but I've known a couple people (one woman, and a man) who went solo there to take advantage of week-long spa/rehabilitation or detox retreats.


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27-11-09, 03:54 PM

I've been to Cuba, Thailand and Spain alone and had a wonderful time.
I'm also an air hostess, and spend a lot of time down route alone.

I spent a month in Cuba and Thailand and a week in Spain.

Cuba was the first time I travelled alone, I'd been wanting to go for ages. I did some research on the Thorntree forum which is part of The Lonely Planet site, and made contacts, and even ended up meeting and renting a flat with a couple of people from the site.

I would say, choose a place that holds a lot of interest, and has some sort of purpose for you so you won't be bored.

Cuba was perfect for me, because I was learning Spanish, and also teaching salsa. My time in Cuba were spend listening to music, in salsa classes or chilling out with some locals mutilating their language.


Thailand, I was going to fast, so I had a purpose there too. Spain, I just wanted to get away and went to a small village by the beach with no-one to bother me. If I had gone expecting a wild time I would have been very disappointed.

In terms of travelling as a black woman, I''ll say I personally think it's harder for us than others. In Cuba, I ran into difficulties because I looked like a local, so would get stopped from entering tourist areas.

Thailand, I didn't have any problems, but I was in a spa and didn't really leave it in case I was tempted to eat!

Spain... Well I guess I don't have to tell you about that, but I kept myself to myself and so it was cool.

The key to a good solo holiday is planning, you may not stick to the exact plan, but it's always good to have one in place. Figure out what it is you'd like to do and how much it will cost.

For evening entertainment, think about something you'd like to do alone, and see if they have that type of entertainment. I always check out whether a place has salsa clubs and then go off on my own.

Do you want to meet locals? If so is there a way to make contact with someone before you leave? Want to meet other travellers? Stay in a hostel type place, or check out the local tourist office.

Carry books or magazines with you at all times. Having dinner in a restaurant seems to take much longer when you're alone. I also kept a journal and love reading it back, the memories are great.

Know the local laws of the country. You can get into trouble for things you wouldn't expect (e.g, it's illegal to bring prescribed painkillers into UAE)

Go on Thorntree to learn what the current scams are being done in that country. Try and find out rough costings of taxis and meals so you won't get robbed.

Always keep your passport safe, and keep a scanned copy of it and your insurance details as a draft in your email account with the details of the British consulate. You will very likely not need it, but it pays to be safe. You can buy one of those prepaid credit cards so you don't have a lot of currency on you.

If you're going to a country and don't speak the language, get a phrasebook, it's helpful for you, and locals like seeing you take an interest in their language. Walk with a piece of the notepad you'll get at the hotel, so if you can't get a taxi driver to understand you, you can show them the paper.

Keep in regular contact with someone here, and work out an emergency procedure (If they don't hear from you every week, contact someone).

It is an amazing feeling to be alone, you get to know more of yourself and run to your own schedule.
Try to just relax, have fun!

Some of the experiences I had in Cuba wouldn't have happened if I had been the safe, sensible person I am here.
I went off with people and had dinners with family, danced at a local carnival, pretended to be Cuban and had 'foreigners' taking pictures of me dancing. It truly was liberating.

On the other side though, I met a couple from Australia who were hanging with a local that I didn't like for some reason. At the end of the night, he offered to walk me home and I declined, but the couple insisted. Long story short, he got whacked up by a pi$$ed off South Londoner. Always go with your mind. I truly believe that we don't listen to ourselves enough!

Hope this helps x x x
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