i would like the forum members opinion on dating and relationships.

for me personally the last few years i have found it most difficult to find a suitable female to try and build a stable and lasting relationship with.

now there are a few reason's i believe that has played a part in this.

1st. nowadays i lead a quiet life...you won't find me in clubs or pubs much these days...now 40 may to some be too young to slow down but i think now is the time to find a nice woman to settle with.
2. i limit "looking" to internet dating sites and the occasional voicemail ad in the voice newspaper.
i'm starting to realise that using those things isnt getting me anywhere near to finding miss right.
the later option is expensive to use to check if anyone has responded to my ad's.
and i have a feeling that most single women have given up on using newspaper dating to find a suitable partner.
3. i can be shy and don't find chatting women up easy...i have tried in the not too distant past only to find the lady is spoken for.
4. i am attracted to exceptionally bottom heavy pearshaped women...years ago it was common to see a BIG black sister going about her business.
nowadays i hardly see one.
any breadah that has a preference for a BIG BATTY FAT BLACK GYAL will no whe me mean.
i wish i had found such a woman when i was younger and had settled together because now i would be content and satisfied.
i'm not a bad looking man either...i'm sure there must be a nice BIG black sista out there for a lonely bredah like me

" a preference for a BIG BATTY FAT BLACK GYAL will no whe me mean.
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I thought these definitions went out with flares It also sounds like your just looking for a "BIG BATTY FAT BLACK GYAL " to keep your bed warm.... Not cool at all.

How do you expect to find a women who is looking for a serious relationship if you limit yourself only to newspapers and internet dating. Many of these ads are likely to be dishonest to show themself in a better light or they may be already involved with someone else, get out more and see whats available.
Don't you have friends or family who could introduce you to someone or maybe you have hobbies or interests that you can use to meet women with simular intrests or religion. The problem could also be the way you approach women or maybe your idea of the type of women you want is unrealistic, more focus on her personality and your shared beliefs and views would make you more compatible.