Lol what trick maybe I am duh to this??

He's trying to make you look and feel paranoid so that eventually you stop bugging him and let him get on with it. He knows the relationship he has with his 'friend' and you are different and if he had respect for you he would tell her to step off or at least to tone it down. A few years ago I would have said to play him at his own game and get a male cousin he doesn't know or a male friend to keep ringing you up and see how HE reacts, but life's too short for all that silliness.

It appears that all your friends and everyone else can see the obvious, but you appear to still be in denial like the river in Kemet, even though deep down you know this relationship has as much a future as a penguin in the sahara desert.

I think you should just cut your losses and move on from this twat. People can only advise you so much, ultimately as an adult you gotta decide for yourself but I personally wouldn't waste my time on someone who had no respect for me and refused to compromise.

erm yeah. He's basically telling you that if you can't catch them f*ing or sucking you need to just set back and shutup. Girl, you need to tear his ass up and drop it off somewhere far away. He sounds extremely manipulative and trust me you will never be able to "win" an argument with someone like that, they'll be sure of it.

I know but I've been in this situation before and the fact that's she sees something incredibly wrong (yeah, she's asking if something's wrong but it's because she already knows and is looking for confirmation) means she's at her ropes end.
If the boy doesn't turn it around I have a feeling the anxiety she feels over the situation will cause her to end it soon. Sometimes you just have to say stuff aloud to other people and gauge their reactions, and listen to yourself speak to realize how everything adds up.
good luck to you Golden1, I don't envy you.

To be honest it doesn't surprise me that our friend here is blind....it reminds me of all those women who write in newspapers with stuff like "my man beats me black and blue, sleeps with my mother, aunties and pet cats, is a drug addict, axe murderer, paedophile, alcoholic, kills animals for fun, assassinated JFK, doesn't work, was behind 9/11, causes global warming, etc etc etc etc........should I still stay with him?"

WTF!!!!!!

Females can be ridiculously naive, I'm sorry to say.

When has non-attractive ever been a big hurdle for some of "us"

I mean walk down the street, look around and seriously think about that

You ain't never lied! i bet dude can't believe his luck!

Biz Markie once said never trust a girl who says she just has a 'friend', but I think that applies to fellas just as much!

It's like some dudes will get caught boning a girl and will be like "oh it's not what it looks like. We're just studying biology" or some ish like that and their woman will not only believe it but will serve them milk and cookies in the meantime.

Sheesh some people need fi get lick with a cartoon sized mallet fi see sense too rahtid!

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