Can your Wife/Significant-Other Talk to You About Other Attractive Men?

Shemsi en Tehuti · (#1 (**permalink**))

This question is directed to the men on BNV with wives or are at least have a significant other in a serious relationship.

Can your woman talk to you about other men they find attractive? Are you secure enough in your relationship to have those kind of conversations?

I am not talking about seeing Morris Chestnut or Shamar Moore in a movie and she commenting about it. I'm talking about you two out at the mall and she tells you how handsome some other guy is...LOL...or some similar situation.

Don't know if you ever had a pure friendship with your current lovers at one point, but you may have had those conversations before becoming involved. Anyhow, let's here it...

x_Lullaby_x · (#2 (**permalink**))

Im not a man and I dont have a wife. LOL. However I cant imagine my mr being overly impressed if I told him I thought the security guard/waiter/ cashier/ whoever was a fine looking brother! Its not something I would do personally as I think Id feel disrespected if he told me how gorgeous some random woman was while we were out somewhere. I personally keep that type of chat to my friends.

Besides, noone's as hawt as Mr x_Lullaby_x!

Black_Power · (#3 (**permalink**))

well I dont mind myself but what I do find is that Im not my other halfs "normal" type

I know she likes Very tall lean brothas...like 6.4" + and im like 5.11" and muscular!

she can guess my type in an instant though...half the time she spots them before I do!

Kunjufu · (#4 (**permalink**))

Yes we do it all the time especially when we go to the gym together, she is always lusting after muscular guys.. in fact there is one who she and other women have nicknamed 'hot chocolate'.. It doesn't bother me in truth...

Shemsi en Tehuti · (#5 (**permalink**))

The funny thing is my wife and I were literally best friends before getting involved, and I knew all the intimate details of the men she liked, was involved with, and what kind of men even turned her on. Since we got married though, we haven't really had those kind of conversations.

Sometimes I feel like we should still share those things just to make sure we are as close as possiblee, but wonder if it is too dangerous of territory. I have to say, everything is different in marriage from a regular relationship, even if you live together. It is hard to explain, I suppose, but I just don't want a discussion like that to go south...

EF MAX · (#6 (**permalink**))

I personally do not see a problem in this especially if it is done respectfully.. I am cool with who I am and talking about stuff, even good looking men is part of life.. I personally don't talk about women to my woman but we have discussed ex's and stuff like that and we have done so from the beginning of the relationship.. disrespectful conversation like " I wish you this or that like so and so" well that is a defo NO-NO.. its all about respect as much as it is about confidence.. personally I like a woman with fine tastes.. be it wine, food, cars or men.. afterall - I have and what is good for one is good for all.

TerraFirma · (#7 (**permalink**))

I think it depends on how it's phrased. It really for example "I think that's a anice looking guy" is ok with me however if the conversation descended into typical "barbershop talk" then no I would not be happy.

Oh and forgot my manners. Hi to all from a first time poster