When a man loves a woman..........

Demi · (#1 (**permalink**))

sup' sup' everybody!!!

well, I asked this question in the 'girl in need of advice' thread, but Kunjufu never got back with me about it..........confused3

can everyone share their experiences/opinions about what signifies a man loving woman? what are some of the things he would do/feel/say?

and, black men, what are some of the things you've done for a woman that made you realize that you were in love?

ya'll remember the song 'when a man loves a woman'...?

so holla back on this, It would really help me and Im sure some female friends on this forum and outside of this forum, figure out if we have the real thing in our lives or not.............

Kunjufu · (#2 (**permalink**))

Demi; I was going to respond today..time willing..probably later ok!!

Demi · (#3 (**permalink**))

@ Kunjufu...........

okay, lol!

I'll be waiting.......................blkrainbowfro

Kunjufu · (#4 (**permalink**))

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Demi; In answer to your question the indicators i recognise in myself ofdeep affection, love call it what you will...are these:

WhenI want to bespontaneous two and three years and even longer down the line..

When I feel totally confortable and safe in taking to you about anything.

When I'm happy to put of a favoured pastime in preferrence to spending time with my partner.

WhenI still wants to make love to you and only you years into the relationship.

When others comment on how comfortablewe look together, there's a certain glow that cannot be manufactured, that all in love couples display..

WhenI argue with you but it doesn’t decend into threatening language,violence or into swearing at or after my partner..

When I want to make up even when it is clearlynot myfault..

Wheni'm happy to do the thingsmy partnerwants just to be near her..

Wheni want tocalls you on the hoof just for chatette, whilst at work..

WhenI may have eyes for pretty black women, but It will enter my head to consider dealing with them over my partner..

When we can holiday together in the same places and enjoy each other company..

I don't count the buying of presents, anybody can do that!!

I don't count overindulgence as this too is a sign of love more a short cut to buying affection..

I would also add another rider in that I'm a lot older than some..so people like Lucas et al may have another perception of male indicators..

Demi · (#5 (**permalink**))

@Kunjufu...........

thanks, u know, thatis reallysweet. and you have no idea how thankful I am for that input......

please lucas, and any other men...or even women..please ,please leave ur comments on here too..................

Africaman · (#6 (**permalink**))

When going through a rough time/stressful situation at work etc, just thinking about her, or seeing her without even telling her, I INSTANTLY FEEL BETTER and whatever it is, doesn't look so bad anymore.

Dada · (#7 (**permalink**))

Hi Demi,

Was'nt going to post on this thread until I saw your location. Thought okay thisperson deserves some maximum respect.

When a Man loves a Woman.

1. Her Happiness is importantto him so he cares for Her Feelings, Her ambitions, Hopes and Desires.

2.He feels totally understood by Her.

3. Contray to others opinion: When his out on the High Street and sees things nice he thinks ;

"I cannot wait to tell her about such and such, I really think it will look good on her or she was talking about reading that book, seeing that film, and going out of your way to get it for her. "

"But do not dull , thy handwith entertaiment, " i.e not to excess or to impress.

4. He Has Time for Her.

6. He listens to Her.

7. He will support her. That is to say he is there for Her.

8. He thinks in terms of thier future.

9. He thinks in terms of how she is with him the remaining 22 Hours of the Day not just those 2 very special hoursniceone.gif

There are many others but those are the ones that spring to mind.

Airborne !
blkdevillol

Demi · (#8 (**permalink**))

@ Dada..................awwww man, that is sooooo sweeeeet! lol, feel all warm and fuzzy inside...

please keep em coming.........Im loving this!!

oh, yea Dada................home of the 82nd ABN Infantry!!!! HOOAH!!!!!!!!!!.......LOL!

Lucas... · (#9 (**permalink**))

mmmmmm this thread is way too sweet for me..... i could never bring myself to admit the stuff i've seen on here.... sigh..why must i be so bad...blkdevillol

bluehoney · (#10 (**permalink**))

Kareem wrote:

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I know I'm in love....gotta leave that woman alone for a while before it gets too deep.

why leave her alone..you scared? already got deep, if you know you love her and you are runningblkfishslap

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You know he loves you when he marries you twice, LOL!...yep we did the formal thing, then 5 and a half years later, we flew to Vegas to renew our vows at one of those chapels. But the biggest indicator for me is when someone makes a lovely gesture unprompted, meaning they weren't ask to do it or told to do it.blkthumbsup

Demi · (#12 (**permalink**))

Kareem wrote:

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I usually avoid sick people, but when I find myself holding aflu-stricken woman in my arms as I sing and kiss her to sleep or invite her to stay at my crib a while while I take care of her.

I know I'm in love....gotta leave that woman alone for a while before it gets too deep.

LOL, laughing cause I have the flu !!and lately plenty of nights spentwith a rattlingcough and sniffling (too embarressed to just go blow my nose) while laying next to my St. Lucian sweetie.......real sexy right??.....lol.....YUCK @ me......

anywayzzzz,yea Kareem, how come u gotta leave the woman alone? what's up? curious as to what makes u feel this way????

Demi · (#13 (**permalink**))

Fredblack wrote:

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what makes this so clearly an act of essential love, is that a man/person must really have made an investment to know you, and you alone as a unique or special person, which is why they alone understand the things which are more or most important and special to you. This requires an investment of time, a conciousness of understanding, and a desire to make that important or a priority. niceone.gif

ahhhh....................

it seems so simple, but it really makesso muchsense.......blkthumbsup

basically, if a person does'nt know whatmakes u tick, what you do or don't like,it's like theycould'nt even be bothered to find out. However, when someone doesknowabout your beliefs and what makes ya laugh, cry, mad, sad.........WOW! the funniest thing is, I havequite a few women friends, that are actually married and their husbands still act as if they don'tknow what's going on with them......maybe it'spossible that they married these women for reasons other than love...............?confused3

on the other hand, I have a few friends whose men treat them like they are their world. I mean, not like like kiss their butts or anything, but are very concerned about their whereabouts and what they do on a daily basis!!! I love that!! some women complain because they feel that their men are too much into what they are doing, orthat they are too jealous! I have never had a relationship like that.....but always envious....most men I had been with allow to much freedom or intimidated by me somehow, always seem like I was in control...(oh, except for one, but he was a little crazy) blkssh........however, someone Im seeing now seems to be what I've always wanted.....we both know he's in control of this, but he's very smooth with it, (and he's not crazy) so gosh, it's working............(on me) but unsure really, what effects Im having on him?? well, in any case, I swear all the comments on here have really given me something to thinkabout, and well, ....compare.Some of the responses havebeen really touching, and I really really appreciate reading what everyone wrote on the thread.........awwww.......blktears