Have you/Are you messing with a married man/woman - Page 2

locsgirl · (#26 (**permalink**))

@All

Sorry I have to Butt in here and agree with Cutie.

Sometimes a person does know themselves very very well. They can honestly hand on heart tell you that they would respond in a certain way, and they would.

True there are not many people who have the courage of their convictions but they do exist I promise you.

I can say this because I have been in this position myself...lied to..betrayed...living in a wonderful bubble of love and romance until.....

And yes I did walk....and its one of the hardest things I ever did, but I did it permanently.

Sometimes love just isn;t enough and you have to be strong and do the right thing by yourself. I see no point whatsoever in staying with a person who;se word cannot be trusted. You have to be able to look further into the future and know that life will throw lots of trials and tribulations at us. If your man is that weak then what good can he possibly be to you when life deals us a tough hand.

As in all situations in life we cannot place all people in the same category and state that no-one could be that strong to walk away when there are such strong feelings involved. These are the scenarios in life that make us grow up...that strengthen our resolve and our spirit.

A man who believes that this woman loves him So much that of course she;ll stay despite his lies....may just be under-estimating her badly.

Kunjufu · (#27 (**permalink**))

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I can say this because I have been in this position myself...lied to..betrayed...living in a wonderful bubble of love and romance until.....

And yes I did walk....and its one of the hardest things I ever did, but I did it permanently.

Sometimes love just isn;t enough and you have to be strong and do the right thing by yourself. I see no point whatsoever in staying with a person who;se word cannot be trusted. You have to be able to look further into the future and know that life will throw lots of trials and tribulations at us. If your man is that weak then what good can he possibly be to you when life deals us a tough hand.

As in all situations in life we cannot place all people in the same category and state that no-one could be that strong to walk away when there are such strong feelings involved. These are the scenarios in life that make us grow up...that strengthen our resolve and our spirit.

A man who believes that this woman loves him So much that of course she;ll stay despite his lies....may just be under-estimating her badly.

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Locsgirl: agreed..however truth time at what point did u walk was it hours, days or months after the final realisation truth now..?

locsgirl · (#28 (**permalink**))

@Kunjufu

Truth time Kunjufu and hand on heart....Immediately.

I took myself, my best friend and my unborn child on an aeroplane and sobbed for 2 weeks in the Tenerife sunshine.

I Never went back to him...contacted him or communicated ever again.

Obviously I feel very passionate about this argument, probably always will. But in the light of what you were saying to Cutie I just could not hold my tongue.

It doesn;t mean I didn;t love deeply. It just means I honour myself more.

Its a tough job...but someone;s gotta do it!

Kunjufu · (#29 (**permalink**))

Ok accept your point..but truth time again do you think your stance is the norm or the exception among the people you know..?

locsgirl · (#30 (**permalink**))

@Kunjufu

Oh I know that I am the exception to the rule, but how do you know Cutie isn;t?

Also I was lucky enough to know True love a long time before this happened. Because I knew how good it is possible to feel with someone I could never be happy settling for drawing the short straw.

NEVER!

Kunjufu · (#31 (**permalink**))

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@Kunjufu

Oh I know that I am the exception to the rule, but how do you know Cutie isn;t?

Also I was lucky enough to know True love a long time before this happened. Because I knew how good it is possible to feel with someone I could never be happy settling for drawing the short straw.

NEVER!

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Locsgirl: I don't know whether Cutie is the exception or not..however my point is that ANYBODY can act with diminshed responsibility, if a kaliderscope of conditions were to collide...Cutie is still young tings..so my point is life changes..so do people.. No one no matter how strong they maybe remains so all their lives..we ALL go up and down the spectrum from strong to weak...that was my point...!!

locsgirl · (#32 (**permalink**))

@Kunjufu

Yes and you are right about that...we can all go from strong to weak on this merrygoround of life.

But hopefully if you have strong guidance from your elders and enough self esteem you can ride the waves and end up on firm ground.

I know women who haven;t and have been to Hell and back because they lost their identity and power due to a bad relationship. Some never recover.

And that applies to men as well cos their hearts get as easily broken as a womans.

*CUTIE* · (#33 (**permalink**))

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Locsgirl: I don't know whether Cutie is the exception or not..however my point is that ANYBODY can act with diminshed responsibility, if a kaliderscope of conditions were to collide...Cutie is still young tings..so my point is life changes..so do people.. No one no matter how strong they maybe remains so all their lives..we ALL go up and down the spectrum from strong to weak...that was my point...!!

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Kungfu I may be (relatively) young but I'm not NAIVE, there's a difference. I believe I can hold my hand up high alongside that of Locsgirl and say I AM one of the exceptions to this rule u have relayed to us. Life changes, u are correct, people also change, but ur values, standards and ideas of self worth do not. I am extremely stubborn, sometimes to my own chagrin but I'm not gonna sit down and put up, thats not me. It seems likemyselfand Locsgirl are being discouraged by u guys, its almost as if u guys prefer the subserviant door mat type as opposed to the strong willed and strong minded sister I KNOW I am (and Locsgirl).

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My ex who I was crazy, mad, loopy in love with over the 4 yrs we were together has put propositions to me and tried to work brain with me on many occassion, and I wasnt having it, the love for him was there but the love I have for me is OH SO MUCH STRONGER.

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The mistake men make is taking a woman's sweetness for weakness, and when they buck up on a girl like myself or Locsgirl they're tricks just dont wash.

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@ Kungfu - no offence taken, I know u are tyring to get a point accross, a point which I can acknowledge but cannot agree with as I know it simply doesn't apply to ME

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@ Locsgirl - thanks for the support. blkclapblk2hugWhether believed or not, we may be a minority but we do exist (lol)

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One Love

locsgirl · (#34 (**permalink**))

@Cutie

For sure Sis niceone.gif

I sense in you a kindred spirit!