The girl who had 350 sexual partners was a Sex Addict. She was also an ex heroin addict and alcoholic. She managed to clean up but in the process got her "fix" from quick sexual encounters with men. This was very sad because in this small town she was well known. People knew she was ill but took advantage anyway. Once she had made a conquest with someone she was no longer interested in them.

An addict is an addict full stop...forever. They will swap one addiction for another whether it be for chocolate or exercise. Apparently Sex Addiction is on the rise. Colleagues of mine say they are treating more and more people with this condition.

People think it must be great to never tire of having sex but it really is a joy-less plight for them, as being addicted to Anything always is.

suspect wrote:

I slept with my girl (or as you guys might call her, "wifey" (what does it mean?? confused3)on our first date and don't think any less of her because of it at all - what kinda foolishness would that be, seeing as I was the one engaging in the act with her??confused2confused2confused2
The length of time you wait to have sex with someone doesn't dictate the level of respect you have for yourself or anything, cos I've been with other girls where I've had to wait longer and still haven't cared about them anyways.

(Not saying that any of you girls that hold out shouldn't continue to do so, because it is a good thing to practice still...)

@Suspect. I am sure there are more black women who are prepared to sleep with a man after one night not because they are more equal, but more influenced by Western white culture and how it rationalising particular things. Hence the white girl culture of "shagging" which is all around us.

Never had a one night stand or been with women who would facilitate that situation.

But the sad thing is this, much of what is being discussed is not intelligent behaviour by the women who do it, because it is not seeking equality in higher things but lower matters of opening your legs, which no matter how you check it actually reduces the women in question. As men and women are not designed the same and as Locsgirl said do not see sex in the same way.

So who is getting the most out of sex without attachments or commitments and reducing sexual relations to something similar to having a shit.

I know a couple of women who are not adverse to get intimate with men after a short time. But when you listen and observe carefully these women are not happy, despite how they are trying to normalise their behaviour, or the bravado they exhibit when talking with the girls. These women despite their rhetoric want proper and intermate relations, but because they cannot get them, often not checking themselves they go for what is available and try to turn it, as if they are in control and desirable.

But when women try to play dirty male games they usually end up the victims of it at some point, because those kinds of behaviour actually undermines and damages women far more than it does men.

The women in question mentioned have been pushing this rhetoric for a very long time eg equality and if men can do it they can. But note most if not many of the men they were playing with are married and settled down, but they are still there trying to get intimacy where they can how they can. Sad really.....Furthermore it means men know even if they are in relationships, there are a couple of women who are up for it and can be discrete. No lose situation really?

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Thats cool for you@ blick brotha but I think that is deep

Sleepin with a girl on your first date ain to clever in my opinion. Time limits are stupid as well, I think I will only look to sleep with agirl when I know her poperly. Depending on time, location, etc I could feel comfy with her within 2 weeks or 2 months. However, I can never know her credentials after the first date

And the way I look a it, as I'm no mac, if a girl is letting off after first date with me,how many other brothas has she let off to on the 1st date

HOWVER, MAYBE YOU KNEW HER AS A FRIEND BEFORE YOU WENT OUT, WHICH WOULD MAKE THE SITUATION UNDERSTANDABLE. hOWEVER IF YOU DIDNT KNOW HEr AS A FREIND BEFOREHAND AND JUST HAD SEX WITH HER, YOUR A BETTER MAN THEN i AM ( p.s. theres no symbolism in me using capitals, just cant be bothered to fix it)

I believe that most black women that are in relationships will onlycheat on their partner because their man is not treating them right at home. They may be subjected to mental and physical abuse, infedelity and the fact that their man is not be supportive, responsible and therefore not holding the family together. Women who may find themselves in these situations often become VUNERABLE to other men that they might encounter at work, shopping, or socialising. It only takes a woman to complain about her man to another man that will let the other man believe that she can be ready for him to sink his 'fangs in'. He just has to say the right thing at the right time to the VUNERABLE womam who probable has a low self esteem about herself. On the other hand the woman may just be fed up with her treatment and go looking for someone to sleep with - knowing to herself that she aint movin from her main man because of emotional ties but will f**k other men for satisfation of being mistreated in the first place. It makes her life muich easier. And hell no; shes no hoe she has too much emotional baggage to deal with reality that she should move on. Therefore her being promicious allows her to deal with life instead of being depressed.

As we grow older we look for more stable things in our lives.

There ain't nothing more unappealing than an aged Player/Playerette. It ain't always the most honorable thing to be at any age, but then that's only MY opinion.

We all know what goes around comes right back. If it ain't yet, it will soon. Players beware.

When it'syourtime to put down the playing and find something real,either you can't find it orif you dofind, it slips through your hands. Boomarang.

You only get in this life, what you put in it.

Are more Black women cheating?

What kind of question is that? Cheating-with whom? On whom?

'Cheating' doesn't mean anything anymore particularly for us folk, and it is a pity since it only points the tragedy that we seem to beincapable of maintaining healthy lasting relationships with one another anyway.

But that is a question of changing and adopting to the worthless and vain values of this society, being bombarded with all kinds of stupid lifestyle options that have nothing to do with us in the first place. Of course I'm being very broad in adressing this aspect of the question, but in a nutshell, so long as we choose not to dispense with the idocies of this social structure and get back to basics-that is, adhere to a structure of living and adopt values that are more condusive to who we are as a people,-we'll always be a mess of depraved, despotic, promiscuous and divided people.

And as far as the question posed is concerned-So bruh, uh, while she's 'cheating on you, what the hell are you doing?

SoliceSeeker wrote:
As we grow older we look for more stable things in our lives.

There ain't nothing more unappealing than an aged Player/Playerette. It ain't always the most honorable thing to be at any age, but then that's only MY opinion.

We all know what goes around comes right back. If it ain't yet, it will soon. Players beware.

Depends on the player, a true playing will never be alone, they may not get the actual person they wish for but there will be many consolation prizes available to them.

When it'sÂ*yourÂ*time to put down the playing and find something real,Â*either you can't find it orÂ*if you doÂ*find, it slips through your hands. Boomarang.

You are only worth how much somebody thinks you are. If the opposite sex thinks they can get something closer to their dream then your worth demises. It’s irrelevant whether their dream is no good for them. Take for example, how many people would buy a reliable Skoda (not too bad nowadays) as apposed to an unreliable BMW? They’ll buy the BMW because it more fashionable and hope its unreliability will some how correct itself. Only total unhappiness changes that.

You only get in this life, what you put in it.

In relationships, you get in life what people are willing to give you. The best anyone can do is make themselves as presentable as they can and hope its enough.