men how do answer your lady when

LadyDay · (#1 (**permalink**))

Just wanted to know...Men how do you answer your lady when she asks you questions on her appearence. for instants. i asked my hubby if he would mind if i started plying on make-up or started looking caked up in make-up ... he said he didnt mind whatever made me happy.... confused2

when i dress to go out he will make sure that my shoes are matching my outfit buit most times he will say its alright.

should i just be satisfied that he is content with whatever makes me happy or am i just looking to far into this?

think if your lady came to you what would you say or do

Fredblack · (#2 (**permalink**))

@LadyDAy. All depends. But generally I think many women and the majority I know play games and speak double speak. So they do not want you honest opinion on many things particularly how they dress. They want your affirmation or support. So I will not anwer or give a non commital. It's alright and simply not get into it.

Because if I diasagree and she says but so and so said they like it. My response is obvious go and ask so and so and don't bother me. Issue done.

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LadyDay · (#3 (**permalink**))

blackmatta i did ask a direct question. afterall he has to live with this face and body so ...

plus its not about what other people think but what he thinks because what he thinks is golden to me

Peacemaker · (#4 (**permalink**))

LadyDay wrote:

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Just wanted to know...Men how do you answer your lady when she asks you questions on her appearence.

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I used toanswer, So you want emotional security do you now?.

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Unfortunately the question has changed to. "I need someemotional security, tell me what you think of this." AndI normally answer, "I

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t looks good just not on you."

facetygal · (#5 (**permalink**))

bighairlolbighairlolbighairlol @ Peacemaker

I dress how I like, and do what I like. If my man feels to comment I may or may not listen, but I'm not gonna ASK for his opinion.

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Fredblack wrote:

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@LadyDAy. All depends. But generally I think many women and the majority I know play games and speak double speak. So they do not want you honest opinion on many things particularly how they dress. They want your affirmation or support..................After 4 Decades of this I can assure U this is Spot On for most Ladies most of the time........vast majority of the time most Women want to hear ...."You're Right"......to which they'll usually reply .."Thank You" not in a "Thank You,Kind Sir way lol"...but a "Thank You"..I knew I was right all along kinda way...

Backatya · (#7 (**permalink**))

Fortunately my wife and I have an understanding that if she asks I will answer honestly. This way she knows to only ask if she is prepared for an answer that may not accord with what she would like to hear.
Also, even is she does not ask and I think something is just not right for her, I will tell her. Of course it's up to her what she does with my comments; sometimes she might agree sometimes she might tell me to stuff it (in the nicest possible way of course

She is just as honest with me, but I seldom ask her anyway because I know I always look. good blkafro

@ Facetygal
Sister you don't mess! LOL

Respect

Fredblack · (#8 (**permalink**))

@Backatya said"She is just as honest with me, but I seldom ask her anyway because I know I always look. good blkafro

That's what I like to hear. Gwan bro...

@Cockneybuoy. I have always been a very observant and reflective child/adult who watches people very careefully, women in particular. Hence my views on a lot of issues about what is really meant by equality etc because I have never met a woman who wants it unless it is in very specific and attractive areas. They will adopt another set of reasoning for the things they do not want to do.

But I know I am right where this dressing issue is concerning for most women I know. But here is the clear and another double standard. While they really don't care what you say for the most part. It is not the same the other way round. Every woman I know wants to dress me and tell me what to put on. NOt that I have any problems in physical presentation as I come from an exremly vain family and the women always commend you on your dress etc when you are dating etc.

But the thing is once they have you so to speak. Then they start to in effect impose their tastes on you in a way I would never ever think of doing as it is her body. Moreover women have a range of tactics of mainpulation etc which they will apply to attempt to make you conform. I wish the honesty which Backatya seems to enjoy was my experience because women generally do not want to hear what they do not want to hear and have alll types of responses to not hear it.confused3

So seen it too many times friend to be simply a coincidence or mistaken.

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LadyDay · (#9 (**permalink**))

Blackmatta .... mmm you see the question on being caked up in make-up was so that i would know honestly his views onme hiswifewearing make-up or going over the top with it. its not science. fair enough i except that he is fine with whatever i do ... but he must still be able to give me an opinion. as he usually tells me if he dont like my hairstyle yet i dont ask. so....

@facetygal i hear what you say but i still like to know sometimes what he is feeling.

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Fredblack wrote:

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@Cockneybuoy. I have always been a very observant and reflective child/adult who watches people very careefully, women in particular. Hence my views on a lot of issues about what is really meant by equality etc because I have never met a woman who wants it unless it is in very specific and attractive areas. They will adopt another set of reasoning for the things they do not want to do.

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Of course thats right..The Scene in a typical Office "We're ALL equal!" exclaim the Ladeez...except,obviously,we'll have proirity in certain areas..Men should allow this as this comes under the category of basic Gentlemenly Behaviour!"....O.Keee...."Anyway as we Females were saying we are ALL equal..Michael carry that stuff over..there's a good lad..".......blah.blah which comes under the heading of accepting U have additional strength blah.blah..Okeeee....."Now come on Men...there's only SO MANY chairs to sit down on..you'll have to stand I'm afraid".er Okeeeee..."Anyway where were we?"..."Ah! Yes!...Equality in the Office.."...etc etc.........there not exactly 2equal" I've noted when it comes to dealing with the slightest aggravation/unpleasantness......."You're THE MAN!!....Speak to...them.....Face-To-Face....Man-To-Man"....Okeeeeeee

"But I know I am right where this dressing issue is concerning for most women I know. But here is the clear and another double standard. While they really don't care what you say for the most part. It is not the same the other way round. Every woman I know wants to dress me and tell me what to put on. NOt that I have any problems in physical presentation as I come from an exremly vain family and the women always commend you on your dress etc when you are dating etc."

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When the boots on the other foot Ladeez say(and mean lol)..."Excuse Me?....I Don't need ANY advice from you..My taste is VERY good Thank You!....in fact you're the LAST person I'd ask regarding Sartorial Elegance..!!.......U can't teach me Jack.. about dressing .....Purleese...."

"But the thing is once they have you so to speak. Then they start to in effect impose their tastes on you in a way I would never ever think of doing as it is her body. Moreover women have a range of tactics of mainpulation etc which they will apply to attempt to make you conform. I wish the honesty which Backatya seems to enjoy was my experience because women generally do not want to hear what they do not want to hear and have alll types of responses to not hear it.confused3 "

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Age old Female tendency....they presumably are attracted to a Partner the way that they are.....then they want to change you....lol......slowly but slowly..bit-by-bit....I love the way some Ladeez say "Talk To The Hand!".....try doing it to them....

So seen it too many times friend to be simply a coincidence or mistaken.

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Me too!!!........we must both have decades of this experience,,,lol......thinking about it...We haveniceone.gif.....Regards,CB.

facetygal · (#11 (**permalink**))

LadyDay wrote:

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@facetygal i hear what you say but i still like to know sometimes what he is feeling.

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The only time I wanna know what my man is feeling is when we're in bed. Lol, only joking!

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I guess if u go ahead and do it u will then find out how he really feels by the look on his face. Words don't mean a thing, but expressions do. At least he has good coordination, making sure the shoes go with the outfit. niceone.gif

shae · (#12 (**permalink**))

i would hope he'd answer me honestly as i'm not asking for asking sake.

but if he says he didn't mind then take it as you look alright. if my man said he didn't mind i'd take it as that, b'cos i'm sure that if i was looking to' up he'd tell me bare face as i would do for him

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