When Your Friend checks out your Girl!!!!

Butterfly B · (#1 (**permalink**))

I just need to hear some advice from a man'sperspective, the other day I was with my man and I meet some of his friends for the first time. One of his good friends bluntly checks me out in front of him.

I felt a bit uncomfortable, my boyfriend didn't say anything but I got the impression that he felt a bit awkward.

Ijust need to knowwhyguys do this and how wouldufeel if it happen to U?
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Is it a compliment or sumthing or will their be exchanging points later or something?

Blackthought · (#2 (**permalink**))

Butterfly B wrote:

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I just need to hear some advice from a man'sperspective, the other day I was with my man and I meet some of his friends for the first time. One of his good friends bluntly checks me out in front of him.

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Plain disrespect........... at least he should have hidden it

I felt a bit uncomfortable, my boyfriend didn't say anything but I got the impression that he felt a bit awkward.

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Well tell him

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Ijust need to knowwhyguys do this and how wouldufeel if it happen to U?

Some guys do it, to know if you are really hot or not and what type of chick you are... childish manner to check if there friend is game.....

Is it a compliment NO or sumthing or will their be exchanging points later or something?

[size=2][font=verdana]His friends will definetly discuss you in the background maybe not with him... but with other dudes... if they can disrespect him in front of his face.. well they wouldn't be holding back behind him....

Mokele Mbembe · (#3 (**permalink**))

Your man's friends see him as a geek and have no respect for him standard. That sort of thing does not go on.

Either that or you ain't really his girl....

See, we can go into descriptions and big details and every flipping thing about a fling or a chick you simply slamming but man won't speak ONE single detail about his real girl and won't tolerate questions about or studying of her from anybody.. especially not in his presence.

Butterfly B · (#4 (**permalink**))

Thanks for your reply, I will definitelybe having a word.niceone.gif

_brown_eyes_ · (#5 (**permalink**))

one time dat happened to me,an my man had the cheek to shout atME an say it was my fault!! I hadnt even givin his friend a second look so i dont see how i cud have caused it

ur mans friend is rude an he is someone dat needs to ne kept away from his friends gyal

Prince Hakeem · (#6 (**permalink**))

Naah man, them kinda tings are NOT ON!! I don't feel sympathy for man who get knocked out by the next brudda for them kinda ting, because if you can't show respect to a fellow man for something as personal as that you deserve to get knock out. People don't take them tings lightly.

My friends wouldn't disrespect me like that and neither would my wife's friends eye me up and down - especially not in front of her. You just don't overstep certain boundaries cos that's dangerous....

The Mighty Mos Def · (#7 (**permalink**))

Butterfly B wrote:

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I just need to hear some advice from a man'sperspective, the other day I was with my man and I meet some of his friends for the first time. One of his good friends bluntly checks me out in front of him.

I felt a bit uncomfortable, my boyfriend didn't say anything but I got the impression that he felt a bit awkward.
[line]Your "man" is 'soft' and is seen as such by his boys. They have no respect for him and they know he doesn't have the backbone to stand up to them for their disrespect. He should have told them in front of you that this type of disrespect won't be tolerated. If a "man" can't stand up to his friends, in front of his lady, for disrespecting his lady; what should you expect from him in a really tough situation?

Ijust need to knowwhyguys do this and how wouldufeel if it happen to U?
[line]If your "man" is perceived as the geek, punk or softie in his crew, they're used to showing him no respect, and they aren't going to start in front of his lady. So, either he doesn't know how he's perceived by his boys, or he isn't man enough to show them that their perception of him is wrong and stand up for himself, in front of his lady, which is beyond pitiful.

Is it a compliment or sumthing or will their be exchanging points later or something?
[line]It's not a compliment. A compliment would be his friends saying, "you found a winner there, bruh", in private, not eyeing his lady to his face; they're questioning his manhood, and, unfortunately, for you, he didn't respond.

You need to explain to him how you felt, if he doesn't respond to your liking, you should consider finding a real man, because it appears that you may have a coward on your hands.

Mr$ M!llZ · (#8 (**permalink**))

you lot went sick, reading too much into it perhaps!

maybe they were just impressed that their friend is with a girl who is as attractive as you.

maybe they meant nothing by it, didnt realise they were being so obvious

maybe your man WAS feeling awkward, but decided to talk to his friend about it later, when you're not there.

maybe he's decided that he had a chance, and if it continues, he'll take action.

just talk to him calmly,explain how it made you feel, and find out what he's saying too.

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Prince Hakeem · (#9 (**permalink**))

Mr$ M!llZ wrote:

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you lot went sick, reading too much into it perhaps!

maybe they were just impressed that their friend is with a girl who is as attractive as you.

maybe they meant nothing by it, didnt realise they were being so obvious

maybe your man WAS feeling awkward, but decided to talk to his friend about it later, when you're not there.

maybe he's decided that he had a chance, and if it continues, he'll take action.

just talk to him calmly,explain how it made you feel, and find out what he's saying too.

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Hmmmmmmm......maybe ya right...but some things just shouldn't happenthough - even by accident.