Aryek - in this day and age I think it acceptable for the bride and groom to prepare and present their own vows - but then that can be seen as kind of plastic and premeditated...almost like a pre-nup.
Marriage should be based on a common culture of core values which should not have to be agreed. Most cultures of the world (greys and fragmented Africans have no culture) know precisely what they are getting married into and accept this for the betterment of the collective. Greys are in a different league now because their culture is money and as long as you have that it is superior to concious/religious culture, spirituality and even God.
I was with my other half 7 years which was long enough to at least give her the license i.e. she respected the values she'd be marrying into which could be anything from naming your children to the food you give them....if my hunches proved right then she'd get the ring....but alas
In my eyes one of the biggest misconceptions is that marriage is between two people - a' babylon business dat!. For me a marriage signifies you have married into a culture shared by a community....or if you like, tied your self into a common belief system. If I was thinking about myself then I would never get married. For too many of our sistas, the common belief system is THEE system, the same one that continues to oppress our people.....I guess for these coots, money means equality which is superior to religion, spirituality and even God.
So yeah, I see what you are saying, but then only the superficial would buy into blanket statements. Marriage is culture, a cultural virtue; only hypocrites, sellouts, the selfish and the uncultured will tell you otherwise.
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