I've met a guy that I really like, I spoke about him in an earlier post, the thing is we've never met and he lives far a way, which means if e meet it will be a big effort on both parts, however, he comes across as a nice guy and because of this I would like to meet him. However theirs a big barrier he is youngest and he does not know that I am a couple years older than him and have a cleft lip. I have told other guys I have met other guys when they did not know about it and they have left without barely being civil, this is a big dilemma for me as I really like this guy, he seems to suit me personality wise perfectlt, but he is also says that he is very picky. He has already begged for a picture and got frustrated when I denied him one
What should I do as I like him loads...

Be honest with him, it's the best policy, and try and do this on the phone and not via email, because you will be able to detect his initial tone!

Dont feel down hearted,nobody is perfect, ifyou accept you, no one can reject you, if he does behavein a way that makes you feel insecure, freehim to the wilderness - HE AINT READY FOR YOU!! Girl keep your chin up niceone.gif

Thanks Blessingfrom God, but I'm too terrified of the rejection, what I usually do is speak to people on the phone, never telling them, when they ask me to meet up with them I just keep on saying no, until finally they loose interest.

I do understand what you mean, however, you may have to also stop trying to hide behind your pc! Get out there and meet people. When it's your time to meet your guy, I belive you will, and hewill make you feel like the beauty you are.

Honesty is by far the best policy.

Just let him know, ifhe is no longer interested then he really will be the one missing out. Hold your head up, your king will come. (p.s. I'm still looking for my mine too, so don't be disheartened).

Blaklikeme: personally i think you should have told the truth from the start, because you would have saved yourself a wholeheap of anxieties and theinevitable hurt of a painful rejection... I think it would be a surprise if this guy didn't turn tail and ran...

However...if he does that I think you ought to take it as a blessing as he probably wasn't the person you thought he was... Next time please just show people who you are and what you're about, you know quite a lot of times people see past the superficial imperfections and fall in love with the person...

cant you just fix the lip with surgery?

bu bck to the point.. yeah you shpuld have been upfront from the get go...thats the problem with meeting folk in newspapers/internet. you cant gurantee its what it sais on the tin.

The body is whatever it is. By that I mean if it's sagging, overweight, skinny, or if you have physical problems- that's what it is. Anyone who cannot deal with you isn't the one for you. Rejection doesn't bother me because I know that everyone has different tastes.

You would be surprised how understanding some people can be about those kinds of things. Granted, if you are under 25, you are still dealing with people who are emotionally immature, but once you become older you will find that men are very understanding. If I were you, I'd tell people as soon as I felt comfortable and let them make up their own mind about meeting me.Remember, if it wasn't the problem with your lip, it might be your height, or your weight, or some guys don't like girls with pierced ears, etc. So you are just like the rest of us. Everyone has something about their body that they are sensitive about.