one of the bossess at work hates my guts,infact id say he is jealous. cuss for some reason im the only black guy he picks on. he watches my every move and comes to my table and stuff. what started it was the fact that the woman he wants to date or has been tryingto date all this while.kinda has a thing for me and everyone knows it. this motherfukers comes in and starts the hate. how would you lot handle this shit.

Soul, that environment must be simlpy horrid. Is this just a job or a career? If the latter, well how much is this fool going to continueto make your life at workhellish? How about bringing this up in supervision, let him know you feel slightly harassed -read your work policy on harrasment! What about his line manager, can you talk to him/her? If it's just a job, do what you gotta do and move on. Good luck.

Soul, that environment must be simlpy horrid. Is this just a job or a career? If the latter, well how much is this fool going to continueto make your life at workhellish? How about bringing this up in supervision, let him know you feel slightly harassed -read your work policy on harrasment! What about his line manager, can you talk to him/her? If it's just a job, do what you gotta do and move on. Good luck.

record some evidence

keep a journal of what he says, when he says it

when you've built up some facts and evidence go to the managers

or go to them now

All good advice that has been posted. Seriously make sure you document each incident after it happens.

Make sure you talk to human resources department and put in a harrassment claim.

yea ill try keeping a journal if the shit continues, i mean i was so close to smashing this guys head. and running away. due to my temper. but i just laugh it off as someone being so damn insecure. what some guys will do to get women is just unbelievable, people say women are the jealous ones? men can be equally as jealous as women. whitys for that matter. ill tell you its hard being a brother at work not to talk of a fit brother. i aint bragging but im the biggest guy there im6'3 and could smash this 5'7 guys face in. butthen ill probably go to prison. cuss most of the blk guys there are wussies and wouldnt even speak. i get told to move tables atimes so i dont sit nxt to the beautiful bllufoots. lmao the insecurity of the whiteman .

anyway its not that great a job and ill walk outta it if it gets outta hand thanks for the advice guys.

the worst part of it is that it happens to memany placesiv worked. might as well stop keeping fit and make my self hideous maybe that'll help.

Soul....just to add to the very GOOD advice given thus far....

I know its hard but i would beg you NOT to react to this fool, this is exactly what they want..it is not unheard of for companies to use such tactics with Africans as means of getting rid of somebody without having to pay them off...

This fool is weak, which is why he is coming at you in this way...you need to view this fool as the weakling that he is...and maintain your focus...learn from his mistakes and do not give him the opportunity to bring you down to his level because this is what his aim is....

I know this sounds odd advice, but when I've been faced with such weak minded Europeans...I never react because i know i've beaten them in their mind already....for me the strategy from this point onwards is how can i **** them up with the least comeback on myself....

i never get up into their face and i never follow their agenda...i keep to mine, because it put them off balance..for example if he came looking for a confrontation at 9am I'd walk..because he is prepared and i'm not...i would however get him later or the next day when the roles would be reversed..(do you see my point) only do something when you're prepared and not visa versa.

The worse thing you can ever do to a weakminded European is to just ignore the wretch they HATE that....and then allow him/or her to expose themselves, the moment you react or follow their agenda they can offset their bad behaviour putting it all on you or by making it look like a personality clash....

This is one those situations where a calm objectivity is called for....

the soul machine wrote:


I would have a face to face conversation with him about the situation to see where he stands as a man. If you cant resolve the situation through the proper channels within the company, you may want to weight other options to earn in and out of the organization.

If your back is up against the wall you may want to look at taking matters into your own hands, offline.

Sometimes people need to be reminded that their power in a company doesnt extend outside the walls of that office.



KWIM?

well kunjufus advice is what most men in my family are telling me to do. being ignore him to the point it hurts and ill try that. but like bacoo started the idea of taking on this guy after work by the car park comes to play in my mind. i mean im being called dumb behinde my back by this guy to the woman. by the way this same woman hired me. so it kills this guy.

but ill give it a shot ignore him. but i know ill loose it if it get too far. ill end up leavingand ill make sure i sleep with this woman to make him mad if he pushes it. we all know resolving this throught the proper channel wouldnt get me anywhere i mean its whitys we talking about here theyll always support their kind. i never had this problem when i worked in the u.s.

the soul machine wrote:

I have to agree with everyone here. Thiseuropean is not worth the time of day because he's simply a weak minded individual and in fact, this is a typical example of the kind of fear euros have for African males.

What I would suggest on top of the advice you have already been given is not to get too familiar with this woman in the meantime. I know it may be tempting to flirt with her just to piss him off, but that would only make matters worse. In fact, I'd strongly advise anyone not to get too familiar with work colleagues of the opposite sex.When you distance yourself just make it a gradual process until she sees you're only interested in her on a professional level, don't be blatant with it or else who knows what she may decide to do.....

just get some o more grimey family members to kick shit outt him when h leaves work... it will make him think twice about pushing his luck with you.