Thanks for the feed back, Bro. i understand that this country (England) is a joke long expired when it comes to family values, and the country respect for all things sensitive to one own mother culture. If the Funeral took place back Home no doubt your people back in Jah would have handed that white woman her arse in the traditional African fashion, if she tried to play games with them.

Again my deepest condolences to you and your Family.

When it comes to how we feel, there is no wrong or right there just is. If you feel it was too soon and disrespectful then it was. Yet in my experience it is also important to recognise that our emotions can make us more sensitive to issues which we would normally handle differently. Normal is the key word. The world may seem the same today as it did yesterday but please do not underestimate that the feelings raging inside your heart and soul overstand that your loss is not ‘normal’.... it is not just another day, you will need time to come to terms with this.

To directly answer your question, It is difficult to give my full opinion on your circumstance as I do not know all the facts, by the way you describe the situation it does seems too soon, especially if the subject could have been addressed way before yesterday, however if the new gf’s/bf’s were sincerely there to pay respect then the real issue is what would your father of wanted.

Try focusing on that and not them, now is the time for your spirit to heal, not be further upset.

Peace.

May I offer my condolences to K and family.

My pops passed away a couple of years ago after a long illness and although the 'other woman' was not white, after the death you realise they must have been influencing his decisions when it came to writing his will.

If you were close to your father I would be surprised if you were left out of his will. I know from my experience that my pop's will was a year a few months before his death - I saw a copy of his original and the latest version. Some peoples names dissappeared, some people got a bigger share of the inheritance!!!

All I can say is you need to watch these women hard.

Reading back in the thread I can see why you vex. The behaviour just seems spiteful on top of the disrespect. You really have to wonder how it is this woman had the time to do all of this while her husband was in that condition. I know people grive in different ways but there's no need for it!!

Your part of the family will always have a relationship with your father long before they were there, no matter what they do. Remember that.

I'm glad there was good turn out for him. "Mr Kunjufu may your soul rest in peace".

I apologize for my tardiness, Kunjufu. . .and I wish to extend my deepest sympathies, my brother.

Kunjufu

Sincerest condolences to you and your family.

Sincere condolecences to you and yours. Remember, time is a wonderful healer.

May the ancestors bless you.