Have we died @ 30?

Mos · (#1 (**permalink**))

Does anyone feel their life or attitude to life has changed since they have reached their late 20's or 30's?

I'm in my early 30's and have different ambitions and like-minded friends.
I have been told at my age I should be settle down or looking to settle down.
That anything risky should have been done in your student days and now is the time for stability.

Are we 'too old' to travel around the world (backpacking)?
Do we still take risks?
Have we tried to fulfill our dreams - maybe being a DJ, opening a shop?
Do we feel that I wish I done 'that' when I was younger but now I'm too old?

Is life in stages?
Before 30 - Take chances, live life to the full, learn a new language
After 30 - Settle down, Chill out

Maat · (#2 (**permalink**))

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Originally Posted by Mos

Does anyone feel their life or attitude to life has changed since they have reached their late 20's or 30's? Yes

I'm in my early 30's and have different ambitions and like-minded friends.
I have been told at my age I should be settle down or looking to settle down.
That anything risky should have been done in your student days and now is the time for stability.

Are we 'too old' to travel around the world (backpacking)? No
Do we still take risks? Yes but you may consider the implications of the risk more.
Have we tried to fulfill our dreams - maybe being a DJ, opening a shop? Not always because many people don't have or relaize that they can have dreams. They are happy with the simple things in life and expect little.
Do we feel that I wish I done 'that' when I was younger but now I'm too old? Sometimes. It depends on what it is. Other things just have to go on the back burner until you can do them.

Is life in stages? I think so. The problem I find is that most people don't talk about those changes. It's one of those things you only know about when you experience it.

Before 30 - Take chances, live life to the full, learn a new language
After 30 - Settle down, Chill out

For me it's been the other way round. In my 20's didn't take much chances going really wild and making loads of mistakes under the guise that I was young enough to be allowed to but my heads so old that much of the young part didn't really hold my interest for long. To many i'm still a spring chicken - a one 46 recently told me - but now I just hope for my children to grow well and for me to live long enough to see it THEN I can chill out. Maybe I should have gone wilder from time to time but lately I'd like to find time to just focus on some of the many interests I've had from my youth.

Maat · (#3 (**permalink**))

...to answer the thread question Have we died @30? No. Something happens to us somewhere along the line that eventually causes a great silence and a whole lot of seriousness.Maybe a part of us dies or gets buried. What do you think?

SoulRebel · (#4 (**permalink**))

As someone who passed 30 a long time ago, I'd say that if anything, you just begin to appreciate what you can do with your life at that age. There is no way I would go back to being the person I was when I turned 30.

More like birth than death to me. It gets better as you get older.

Engineer · (#5 (**permalink**))

life begins at 40!

Mos · (#6 (**permalink**))

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.. Something happens to us somewhere along the line that eventually causes a great silence and a whole lot of seriousness.Maybe a part of us dies or gets buried. What do you think?

I think what you say is true but it's a shame.
For women and men approaching 30 the thoughts turn to children and family.
You have be serious when you're responsible for another life.

Is it our children or planning for children that indirectly cause us to bury our dreams and ambitions?

How many people with kids have managed to live life with the same 'freedom'?

Mos · (#7 (**permalink**))

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life begins at 40!

For women who want children if you are still single and childless, could be argued life ends at 40.

Mos · (#8 (**permalink**))

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For me it's been the other way round. In my 20's didn't take much chances going really wild and making loads of mistakes under the guise that I was young enough to be allowed to but my heads so old that much of the young part didn't really hold my interest for long.

Maybe I should have gone wilder from time to time but lately I'd like to find time to just focus on some of the many interests I've had from my youth.

This is my story as well. I was cagey in my youth but now I living with more freedom and pursuing my interests.

Risks are more calculated, though I don't feel like squeezing my teenager's zeal for life into my 30's

Engineer · (#9 (**permalink**))

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For women who want children if you are still single and childless, could be argued life ends at 40.

For white women, yeah i agree.

Maat · (#10 (**permalink**))

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I think what you say is true but it's a shame.
For women and men approaching 30 the thoughts turn to children and family.
You have be serious when you're responsible for another life.

Tell me about it!! I'm married with 3 children!!! That's what I meant when I said I did things the other way round. It's good when people start to consider settling down. I'd like to think that people learn more about themselves too so that they can make wise choices in their relationships with their partners and children.

Is it our children or planning for children that indirectly cause us to bury our dreams and ambitions? I'm still hard ears on that one because even though certain things are on hold I'm not done with them just yet

. I don't think people need to give up on what they want to do. Just review and rejig things a bit and be patient (she says) as long as you keep going back to what it is you want to achieve, it is possible.

How many people with kids have managed to live life with the same 'freedom'? The freedom changes. Without the children yes you have lots of months and years of doing what you want. When the children come and take up most of your time, an hour or even a day of freedom is very much appreciated

LOL@u re: squeezing teeange zeal into your 30's. I meant things that I was into before not any mad stuff LMAO. For example one of the things I really enjoy is drawing. I haven't done much sketching for a while but lately I'm thinking of doing some portraits. This is the kind of thing I mean.