Does it matter if your partner has dated a cracka? - Page 2

Kunjufu · (#26 (**permalink**))

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Originally Posted by blackbutterfly182

@Kunjufu. I feel you are talking about the black people that are beyond saving i.e the black British footballers of the world??? Correct....

But like I said what about the Malcolm X's of the world who do a complete 360 turn in their views and change up their way of thinking and sleeping habits. Did Malcolm X have his head up their backside or make claims of multiculturalism etc?? I hear what you are saying but why is he is exempt from your argument?

I use him as an example as to me he is a good one of someone who can change so dramatically not only in the women he sleeps with but with his whole lifestyle choices, and also you use him as your avatar so on some level I'm assuming he is a role-model to you?

To be honest I can't say that he [Malcolm X] would be exempt, for me if i met him in todays context.. I think truthfully that I would view him the same way until I felt confident that he could be trusted... So i suspect it might, have been the same when he was converted in Prison by his brother, I suspect he had to prove to the NOI, that he had changed and that he renounced his old dutty ways...

But in truth if I had met Detroit Red as he was known then with the whitified hair, drug taker and pusher and sleeping with the bluefoot... I would have blanked him...If i knew about his past when started out in the NOI i would not give him much credibility....However I suppose what made Malcolm the exception rather than the rule, was that he not only stood up and spoke.. he spoke consistently on key issues and did so in an uncompromising way.....

Quite frankly who could we name in the public eye who is still alive, who does that..and thinking personally I've not met anyone yet who behaves as Malcolm did..

Prince Hakeem · (#27 (**permalink**))

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Originally Posted by Kunjufu

Cee Cee et al... I hear the people that talk about not judging people and how people change..yea i hear that..but for me the dutty bluefoot aint brought nothing but grief and heartache to my life... further I have only EVER met one that i could trust beyond the superficial... So i'm clear that I'm not taking tea wid no dutty bluefoot very clear on that..

I'm also clear that I'm only going to relate to dem deh set of people as an equal and nothing else, if that can't be then better we go our separate ways as far as i'm concerned... So when it comes to Black people who like to wrap up, or aspire to wrap up wid dem people... I personally have no time for them period... I will converse, I will associate if the mood take me.. but when it comes to the loyalty stake I'm clear black people like that can't be trusted fullstop and if I can't trust you why in gods name would i want to lie down wid you?

This is the bottom line, if i come to you and tell you how things gwarn...and this person who once lay down wid dutty greyness comes telling me about tolerance, about two sides to a story and about multi culturalism? nah sah don't want to hear no utopian crap, don't want to be a part of no 'we are the world' bullshit... I can honestly say there are very few, and i mean few black people whom I have met who have dated dem dutty wretch who aint got their head up their arse, who don't have sort of self esteem problems or some historical problem with Black people...

My ten years plus on BNV, tells me that everytime we have some numpty who has been lying down wid dem dutty people, we have them making excuses and reasons to offset their behaviour always... I can't think of one Black person whom has been on BNV who has been known to be in IR relationship who aint had his or her head up their backside...

So yes I will drop like Krytonite any body i meet who tells me they were into dem dutty people...hate me but thats how i feel...

Can you nominate your on post in the 'post of the day' section.

You've articulated the way I personally feel, because it's not just the fact that I find the mere thought of an African sleeping with a bluefoot physically repulsive anyway, but it's also what these people in general represent and how their actions/deeds as a whole have had a negative effect on different spheres of my life.

As an African man I just couldn't get with a woman who's slept with one, whether she was young, naive, innocent, ignorant, I don't ****ing care. Anyone can take that how they want....

Incognito · (#28 (**permalink**))

I am a firm believe in the preservation of race. This does not mean I am a racist, it is a sense of pride. Dating a grey in one hand would be too much of a risk to my model but then mt model doesn't really find them attractive at the two are one level in the first place.

As my friend put it, before I date or even get a one pop off a grey, I'd rather use my left hand first.

Although we can screw against their methods, greys have earned their right to be liberal, we still have whole heap a work to do. This to me means dating grey is illegitimate. But then I appreciate it's probably me overestimating this concept of we.

Shemsi en Tehuti · (#29 (**permalink**))

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Originally Posted by wifeable

we live in a society where everyone has dated IR it would be hard to find many men who haven't slept with or dated a "cracka" and its becoming increasingly popular amongst the sisters too.
i wouldn't let that bother me now, i just accept its now part of black culture in the UK so the fact my man would have had some dealings with a white woman is as normal as him thinking he actually had a shot at playing for arsnal. Just be greatful the sister who im guessing has inspired this thread has come back to black!

LOL...well here's one brother that has never played in the snow...guess I am a rare breed...

Black_Power · (#30 (**permalink**))

lol man me and ma bredrin was talkin bout this ame ting today and I gotta agree with K. when this kind of union happens you usally find some namby pamby bredder whos sacrificed his culture to go blue

Imagine you hungry...tired just come in from work to be fed with EGG N CHIPS?? LOL it cant really run can it?

and all them funny ways like washing up in one bowl without running washer or rincing the tings off after...mek mi sick

oddly enough thoguh without the offspring of such unions I would have probably gone my whole teens with no pumpum atall....so I guess its love the product but not the union

oddily enough with all the mixrace girls ive dated its mostly thw WHITE partner who I seem to gell with

some brothers a truly matrys...

Shemsi en Tehuti · (#31 (**permalink**))

I recently went out with one sister, Jamaican, with locs, had a "natural" vibe to her, and was conscious on some levels. While at dinner, she would tell me how I'm "not like most brothers", and went on about how White men treat their women better as I stoked her on just to see how far she would go. She said she dates a White men, they treat her better, and that "there is just something wrong with Black men". Needless to say, I was done with her. Plus, there are too many fine Jah sisters here in Florida to get caught up with the wretched sisters giving the crackerjacks a taste of the nana.

I swear there is an epidemic here in the States. It is bad enough that 95% of African women try to look as "White" as possible, but then when you do find a natural sister who is confident in herself more and more of them are boinking crackermen.

Shemsi en Tehuti · (#32 (**permalink**))

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Originally Posted by Black_Power

lol man me and ma bredrin was talkin bout this ame ting today and I gotta agree with K. when this kind of union happens you usally find some namby pamby bredder whos sacrificed his culture to go blue

Imagine you hungry...tired just come in from work to be fed with EGG N CHIPS?? LOL it cant really run can it?

and all them funny ways like washing up in one bowl without running washer or rincing the tings off after...mek mi sick

oddly enough thoguh without the offspring of such unions I would have probably gone my whole teens with no pumpum atall....so I guess its love the product but not the union

oddily enough with all the mixrace girls ive dated its mostly thw WHITE partner who I seem to gell with

some brothers a truly matrys...

The problem with mixed-raced women is you don't know where their loyalty lies. You can't blame them if they chose Euro over African or vice versa, but if/when I talk to a mixed sister we definitely have a convo for me to know exactly where she is. If she is Crackerland or on the fence, then I will leave her alone.

the soul machine · (#33 (**permalink**))

rofl--- at some comments on here, some of you lot be talking like these IR, daters are serial killers or something.

for me i have dated a blufoot b4, but that was in my teens in the netherlands i lived there for a while what was i supposed to do? i was a kid bout 17,18.

not much blk sisters around apart for the many coolie chicks they had there who were easy to lay. i saw no difference btwn them and the blufoots anyway , and if you think uk's got coons? you aint seen nothing yet. im talking blk women that wouldnt even look a blkman, and this might be down to self, hate or a hurt they musta experienced another factor would be the lack of many blk men for them to choose, but on the real europe produces to many coons.

go to italy (a friend went there and said the connism was off the scale of the charts, i wouldnt want to have kids with any european blk women, if they were french, then ok,iv date a french sister she was awesome but age gap was 6yrs older than me, didnt really work.

here in the uk i wouldnt date blufoots, but you cant keep knocking some men who do, i got friends that have tried and tried getting sisters here in the uk but cant because these sisters either be jamaican or saint lucian and some silly ethnicity crap kicks off. so they go for blufoots.

when i dated the grey in past there was no emotional connection on my side,just the sex was wat kept me. i have never and will never be emotionally attracted to a whitewoman, its just not possible iv tied and had chances to get into relationships with them but i just aint attracted on that emotional level. it can get tempting on the sexuall part when they throw themselves at you, one thing i give to them is that they are good at flirting,
blk women need to learn frm them, if your man is weak, theyll steal him period .

theyll act submissive to draw you in that where many brothers feel like men they make it so easy sometimes, could it be they treat men better? than blk women? blk women arnt as submissive as them though, these blufoots can play the game, that were blk women are losing the battle.

though all that dont change the fact , that a coon is a coon, i got friends that were suprised when i said i dont wana have a mixed race kid, they said"why, dont you want pretty kids with long hair?lol. im tired of trying to change thier silly mentality, i dont think you can ghange a fools mind life will do that for him or her
i gave up on them, they still my friends though, want ima gonna do ignore them?.

as for sister going that route, i dnt really care, i wouldnt mind dating a sister thats gone there, cos usually theyv learnt they lessons.

but mind you i wouldnt date a blk women with a mixed race kid no way in hell wat kinda crap is that? iv seen blk women claiming blk men are worthless fathers but go to a whiteman that does the same shit she blamed the blk man for doing,

i aint having none of that i aint raising no whiteman's kid he's higher on the ladder and you want me to cough out my hard end money to raise your mistake? i saw thismixed race girl pushing her kids to me i just told her straight up i aint raising your white mans kid girl better go find some happy go lucky negro to do that, its funny though because i was partly raised by a white dude(step dad),
but that's my view and my decision period. id even rather raise a white womens white kid than raise a blk womans mixed race kid, dnt ask thats just what i feel, nothing can change that bizzare view.

also if a sister dated like some indian or arab ,i wouldnt even look at her .

Gmahogany. · (#34 (**permalink**))

Interesting topic. For me, it would definitely depend on the attitude/reason that a Black man slept with a white woman. I can honestly say that having had sex with one or two, would not bother me as much as having straight up dated white women, took them home to momma brought them around family. Dudes like that give me the heebie jeebies. Plus, typically, they have some major issues with themselves, and with Black women. Ain't nobody got time to be dealing with that foolishness. They need to take their happy Black asses on, and keep dealing with white women. Though you do find a lot of bros who stay in a Black woman's face, but wanna talk about how great white women are,lol. What's that about? Dont answer, I know what it's about....

Malcolm X was different than what we see the typical Black man who goes this route, doing these days. Even while he was dating that white chick Sophia, he NEVER suffered under any illusions about her or white folks in general. He often made comments to her about how she was just interested in "Black stud dick", and how if the cops came, she'd scream rape. He fully expected her to one day return to her white world,(which she did). It's not like he was all love sick and taking that shit seriously,lol. I give Black men of his generation, from America, a little more of a pass on that, unless they just really got ridiculous with it and all sappy about a white woman, wanted to marry em and all that nonsense. It's almost something they HAD to do, get it out of their system and move on,lol. These modern day Negroes, are another story ENTIRELY, and have no excuse,imo.

Footprints · (#35 (**permalink**))

This thread kindda reminds one of a denunciation ceremony that Moa's government used to carry out in China - initiating public humiliation for peoples past "sins"
You cant change someone's past period, thats who they are, no point in beating them over the head with it. All you can do on your part is to take time to pick your preferences before you get too emotionally attached. So if you dont want to have dealings with exprisoners, drug addicts, prostitutes, gay, trannies, blue foot daters etc then take time to do your homework.

Sooofresh · (#36 (**permalink**))

cee cee,

malcolm x is mixed race, so if he dated bluefoot when he was young, then it was natural to him then.

me personally.........nah, cause you know if anything went wrong then the first thing to come out of their gob is my ex bluefoot did this and that.

so nay, can't be dealing with complex, i aint fooled by kente wearing brothers, cause the minute they start running their mouth about black woman as a seperate entity from women generally,then he has been with a bluefoot!